If bridesmaid doesn't show up to any of the events or actively participates in the wedding festivities, should I still cover their makeup? I'm thinking of only paying for those who have been involved... for reference makeup will cost around $180pp and asking the others to do their own or pay for it themselves.

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Cover the same amount for everyone. I am not sure what events or festivities they didn't do. Thry might just not have had the funds to do them. If you want to "reward" your friends who have done more, pay for something at event only they are at. Don't single out some girls in your bridal party as being "lesser" on your special day. If you need to save funds offer to pay half the makeup for anyone who wants it done. Unless you already told people it's covered, most will assume it's not. If you have, don't back out for only dome if them. Very bad form.IMO

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Lmao so is this your friend or nah? Even the thought of doing something like that is gross

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It would be petty to do that

Maybe ask if they still want to be involved. State that you know it’s a big commitment and wouldn’t be offended if they need to drop. Still welcome to the bach party or hanging out with you all but no wedding requirements

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I think it might just be awkward for the everyone if you cover some but not others. I’d be grateful if my makeup cost was covered but I think it would be weird for me if another’s wasn’t for any reason.

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yes you should still pay. people don’t have any obligation to show up for any more than the day itself. i get you want people to be involved but realistically you can’t expect everyone to drop everything for all of your wedding festivities.

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180 for makeup?? Holy cow.

Sounds like you don’t want the bridesmaids involved if they haven’t been active in your events. Not a bad thing necessarily if they haven’t been able to be involved, depending on the reason. Unfortunately, this would cause tension or issues most likely & you don’t want to deal with that on your day. I’d figure out if you want the people who haven’t been involved as bridesmaids still.

Oooo you are messy. This would go over horribly btw.

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