If someone reaches out to you for a referral but you don’t think they are a fit, what do you say? Assume you speak with them first

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In the past, I’ve said that I unfortunately hit my referral cap for the year. No need to be too direct here, I felt like doing so and telling them they’re not a good fit is kicking them while they’re already down. Plus, it’s a subjective take anyway, so I just stay away and suggest they reach out to another contact at the company they are close to

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Honesty delivered kindly is the move - vague encouragement wastes everyone's time.

After the call, I'd say something like: "I really enjoyed learning about your background. To be straight with you, I don't think I'd be doing you a favor by referring you right now - here's specifically why..." and give one or two concrete, actionable gaps

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Just refer, as the person might not pass the interviews

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Don’t ever refer someone where you have doubts regarding their expertise. One poor performing referral can do damage that bleeds into your career.

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“Afraid this particular opportunity won’t be a great fit with respect to your professional competence and overall physical appearance.”

Hey, a true friend stabs you in the front… 😉

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“I don’t refer people that know or cannot personally vouch for.”

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This is actually a really good one

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Just refer. It’s not your problem, and if they pass you get paid

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It’s a personal reflection on yourself and also you’re wasting peoples time

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How well do you know their professional capabilities?
How do you know for certain that they have not improved since you were last in contact?
How do you know that the environment you saw them in didn’t negatively impact their capabilities?
Maybe this new team may help them to thrive?

I say all that to say: you don’t know…so refer, if they make it - great (money for you, and opp to offer coaching); if they don’t - we move!

Remember it may be you needing their favour in a couple of years time for kids/relatives/yourself

Complete stranger. Like don’t even know them

You can always pass the resume along to recruiting and say you know the person socially but cannot vouch for them professionally. I feel like that says enough. I have friends I have never actually worked with that I would refer in a heartbeat because I know they are good at what they do.

Tell them the truth, but say it gently.

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