Im a 29 year dad with 2 kids with a 3rd on the way. Full time student, full time job, I feel like im stuck and I want to move up but I feel like I am stuck. I either have to give up on school while I’m 1 year away from graduating. Or stick it out in a company with an unknown future. Any advise? Side note I commend everybody and their accomplishments. I strive to be where you are at someday and I figured I’d network out for some advice.

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First, good on you for prioritizing kids. If you have 3 kids and a solid marriage by 30, you’re far ahead of 95% of this community on the things that truly matter in life. It’s an important perspective to keep in mind.

Second, I think feeling stuck in your job for the next year isn’t such a bad thing when you consider how much you’re advancing yourself in other areas with the degree and kid. You don’t have to upgrade every element of your life every year.

That’s all the advice I can give with limited detail. Just remember that working, serving, and loving your family is a rewarding and fulfilling way to spend your life. People who grind on their own for 20 years to retire at 40 without a family will have some serious voids to contend with in their later years that money and leisure will never fill.

Stay the course. You’re doing great!

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Thank you, I appreciate your input.

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It’s a marathon not a sprint - if you believe the program you are in will open more doors for you in the future then you should prioritize finishing that this next year. Plus with another baby on the way and the job market being what it is right now, it may not be the best time to try and switch jobs anyways.

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Listen to McKinsey. I understand wanting to make things happen now, but in five or ten years, I'd bet anything you'd regret not completing the degree when you were so close to the finish line. Stick it out at the job for another year, graduate and then reassess from there.

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I think stay with your current job while you finish school and your family gets stabilized. It’s just a year. Get your degree as that will position you for better job opportunities. You’ll be in a better position to support your family.

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The degree is going to be useful down the road. It's a good idea to finish it if you possibly can, then, hopefully, get a better job based on the degree and improve both your finances and lifestyle, and start saving.

What kind of job are you doing now and how much are you earning?

What is the degree you are about to finish?

Are you married or long term committed with the mother of these kids? What is she up to job and career wise?

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The year will fly by. Changing jobs can be stressful in any market. Stay the course , finish your degree, adjust to the new baby and then reconsider best move

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Do you have a plan for what you will do after you graduate?
The current company doesn’t sound great based on how you describe it.
Are you gaining useful experience there?

Being patient is good, but make sure you are on the right track.

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I think this is a conflict in priorities. If you want three young children before 30 you’re
in baby mode and your career needs to take a backseat unless you have the support in place and can afford it.

If school and work are still top priorities, you need to finance the outsourcing and let FIRE go.

Work on your priorities and understand the trade-offs.

If he and his wife can finish school promptly without a lot of debt, and get high paying jobs after they finish school, they can FIRE.

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