I’m getting married spring of next year. The budget is tight because we are funding this all on our own. My GMA has been showing signs of mental illness (hoarding, agoraphobia, hallucinations,etc.) and I’d like her to come but she won’t leave her house for too long (she’s in FL I’m in Nevada) and she can’t walk for long. How has anyone else dealt with similar situations? She said she’ll try to come but tbh I know she won’t try even if I help. She has the info, I said I’ll set money aside (1/2)

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Put aside the money and revisit it next spring. A year is a long way off for an 84 yr old, especially one in mental decline. She may not be able to come. Good chance if her doctor allows her she will need a traveling companion. Is there a family member coming who could bring her?

I understand why you want her present, but it just may not be possible. If you just want her to able to see it have the ceremoney live streamed.

When is the last time you physically saw her? Has she met your fiancé? A trip now while she is still lucid enough to appreciate it and know who you are might be a better use of resources.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

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You may want to have someone live stream the wedding for her. That is probably best.

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You could have a small intimate ceremony with her and close family before/after the main event, if you need her to physically be there.

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(2/2) for her plane ticket but getting her info on if she can even fly at 84 is difficult. She goes to the doc but doesn’t like to share info (which is fine but I feel like at least her grand kids should know)
Forgot to add my dad passed and my uncle just doesn’t help he’s in a different state and won’t go to her to help.

How can I get her to be able to see the wedding?

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