I'm not married yet and gosh I have saved up a good chunk of money, travelled quite a bit, bought whatever gadgets etc I've ever wanted. Left jobs to take a break for a few months. Took risks in my career. How does ones financial situation change after marriage? It kinda worries me.

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Depends on whom you marry.
After having the benefit of hindsight from seeing decades of friends’ experiences - don’t marry someone who is of a lesser financial position than you. Money matters - even more so in a marriage.

Some of my friends have their life upgraded by multiples for generations by marrying right.
Others scraping along making ends meet as one partner earns the bulk and other barely anything.

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Also be weary of families that are financially dependent on their kids

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Depends who you marry.

You can still make all those decisions…the only difference is now they have to agree.

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The biggest change that I had after getting married, was that it just wasn’t you anymore. You really have to think about the others financial goals and how that will work for the both of you, whether they align or not. Honestly I think being on the same financial page is one of the most important things, and is overlooked too much.

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Thank you. I agree.

Marriage comes with responsibilities and a strong bond with partner helps to overcome all the challenges and you still enjoy life
Financial situation will always be better if both are earning if not some compromises have to be made

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I know exactly how you feel OP. I have actually been married and am now divorced and living my BEST life. I literally travel allll the time, buy whatever I want, take risks, don't worry about anyone but me. It really is hard to imagine giving up that lifestyle.

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That's great. Would like to know what would be your plans or hopes for the future? Would you consider marrying again or look for companionship or ? Having experienced the other side would like to hear your thoughts. Also I believe as people get older it's natural to start wanting a committed relationship maybe?

If you're the primary earner or sole earner, get ready to have a decrease in lifestyle unless you start making significantly more to keep up. If she works, then you two can share the financial burden AND household burden. Please expect to do your share of keeping the home and raising the kids. It's not default to the woman even if you're making more or the sole earner. Have these conversations up front. Set expectations

I enjoy cooking and am good at it and kinda have an OCD, so keeping the house clean and household maintenance I'm more than happy to contribute equally or more. I understand and don't expect the woman to do it alone. A sort of driven and grounded person would be nice. Thanks for your response.

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Omg I’m in this same boat. Going to sit down with my bf to have an honest convo and talk about my financial discretionary wants in the marriage

Marriage doesn’t really have to change any of those things - and can actually improve some of them - as long as you marry someone compatible.

The bigger question is: do you want to have children? Because THAT is the bomb that blows up EVERYTHING you just described.

Marry someone professionally qualified and willing to work

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