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Being okay with things not being perfect
Outsource. Cleaners, sitters, laundry delivery, food service if you need it. Remove every pain point you can.
Don’t juggle! Just figure out which balls are rubber and can fall but reliably bounce back and which ones are crystal and can’t break. I recommend an amazing book called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu! Read it right after having my first kid and returning to work. It gave me so much peace and some great ideas too!
Every single day. I need a month off just to organize my house. I go back and forth from feeling like I’m killing it to falling apart, but mostly like I will never catch up.
This. Multiple times a day swings of feeling like I am really good at what I do and then feeling like I’ll never be able to give enough (time/energy/patience/attention) to any of my responsibilities to be at my best
I am with you. It’s not easy.
A good sitter and cleaning lady, with a designated weekly ME night helps a lot!!
Omg ME night?!?! That sounds lovely
Things aren’t perfect or ever 100% clean. Once weekly cleaning lady. Sitter who helps with daycare pick ups and some laundry and meal prep when we need help. Being direct with my spouse when I need more of his help. And slowing down when I need to or can make time...
Very true! Try to experiment to see what works for you. I found a 15 min quiet relaxation break mid-day and a walking/train commute help me to reduce the physical manifestations of stress.
Also, I try not to focus on having it all. Just giving focus to proper areas at the proper time. My house is a mess most of the time, except the areas where the kids are (for their safety). If I try to do it all, my sanity would be seriously endangered .
I want to “write a book” about this topic. This is the #1 question I see in every digital Mom group, what I hear every time I have lunch with Mom co-workers and hear every time I’m out with Moms. Thank you for the inspiration. I’ve worked hard in the background to stop this feeling and it’s so liberating. If you want to connect DM me. I’m going to post about it more on my Instagram in the coming weeks too. @_nicoleemerick
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I feel this question so hard! Add in pumping twice a day and having to fight off meetings and client calls during that time. I am feeling like I’m on a hamster wheel without gravity.
Some days I’m a great employee and some days a great mother. But rarely both and I’ve accepted that.
Outsource everything and I take the local train instead of the express so I can get a seat by myself and just have some alone time. Sad but true. I also have a standing 2-hour meeting on my cal, my boss thinks it’s a call with my outer office directs, but I use that time to go get a massage/facial/sleep whatever I want or need to do to recharge.
Dreading have to take two hours off to go to kid’s ‘meet the teacher’ tomorrow when we’re on a deadline and I’ll likely be at work til midnight anyway...
After seeing your responses i now feel a bit guilty and realize i have it pretty good. Thanks for giving me a new more positive perspective.
I say no to a lot of things. I got a housekeeper for once a month. We eat in front of the TV sometimes. I get therapy. I work out at lunch, and block it on my calendar. I smoke a lot of pot. I take antianxiety medication. I practice feeling no guilt when I chose me instead of my kids/work/bills/husband/friends.