I’m tired of being told to bring my whole self to work when my whole self is exhausted and depressed. The HR emails about mental health are a slap in the face when they’re sent at 11:30 PM on a Tuesday. They want us to be authentic, but the second you admit you’re struggling, you’re taken off the high-profile cases because you’re a risk. How do you deal with the fake corporate kindness without becoming a complete cynic?

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Nobody really wants any of us to bring our whole selves to work. There are parts of us that have no place in the office, that's just reality. If you feel cynical about fake corporate kindness, just remember that a practiced politeness is what encourages a lot of things to proceed in businesslike fashion. It's a way of greasing the gears, so to speak. And like the playwright said, all the world's a stage.

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You should stop “bringing your whole self to work.” HR may be saying that, but it’s terrible advice.

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You’re just selling hours of your life for money. Don’t overthink it.

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Take your whole self somewhere else.

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Safe your whole self for your family and friends. Show up, be polite, do the work.

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