Is it weird to not have maid of honor/best man at weddings?

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It's a fun thing to do but if it's your wedding and you don't want one then do you booboo.

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So weird. To make doubly sure it wasn’t weird I had 2 each; and then had them battle it out.

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No weird at all. The past two weddings I’ve attended didn’t have a bridal/groom party at all. No maids of honor, just a niece/nephew as the flower girl/ring barber and guests. It was so nice no to have to buy a bridesmaids dress or forced into hair and make up all day. The bride did the day of with only her family and was so much less stressed. Plus, she didn’t have to buy gifts for her bridesmaids. It was a win win for all!

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The older I get the sillier bridal parties seem to me. It made sense following college to have all of our friends in matching (expensive 🥴) gowns, but I’m way happier at weddings not standing and staring lovingly at my friend for hours on end during a ceremony, having to do a silly dance in front of 100+ strangers when I dance into the reception, and hugging girls I don’t know wearing matching outfits for pictures while fake laughing. It always felt like the focus had to be spread on me and my fellow bridesmaids which felt weird. Bride’s parents checking in on us constantly to be good hosts, running out midday to get us chick Fil a platters because we’d been up since 6 am to get our hair and makeup done — instead of being present for their daughter. Bridesmaids taking selfies endlessly with their done up makeup while the bride finally gets the chair. Taking sooo many pictures of the bridesmaids and the bride spending the whole morning making sure she has a great picture with each friend. It’s just a lot!

Plus the politics of it kills me. Siblings are generally expected to be maid/matron of honor or family and guests will talk.

I’m not married so can’t say how it would be for the bride, but I have bought way better gifts for friends who didn’t have me in their weddings because I’m not $200 (gown I’ll never wear again) + hair/makeup/shoes $ in the hole. Your friends will still throw parties for you and celebrate you even without titles and a random spot on your wedding website. Guests focus on you and not your matching friends. Just my take— I don’t want anyone being annoyed with my response, it just seems like a tradition that benefits the friends more than the couples and isn’t what the day is about. Do you!

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Not weird! Your day you do whatever you want.

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I didn’t and I love it. Kept the attention on the wedding and didn’t have any drama you so often hear of

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Nope. We didn’t have a bridal party at all and I’ve been to a few weddings like that.

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Not weird but people get so butt hurt about this stuff. Do you have a very good friends that would be the natural choice for a best man or maid of honor? Or you’re entertaining this idea because you don’t?

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Not weird at all. I wanted my friends and family to all be able to enjoy the ceremony and reception, so we didn’t do wedding parties at all.

Yes it’s an honour to be in the wedding party. It’s also a lot of work and obligations and $$$ to ask of your loved ones. And sometimes drama.

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When I get married it will only be my husband and pastor standing. I don’t understand the point of having all these people behind you especially when they aren’t making any commitment.

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Not weird. Just attended one of the most beautiful weddings I have ever been to, and it was no maid of honor/best man.

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It’s your wedding, do whatever you want to do! It’s your day so if not having them will make it better for you, then 100% not weird!

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Who cares ...

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Nothing is weird in 2020

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Nope. Got married in 2017. We didn’t have a bridal party. Had friends hold the rings in their seats, another friend do a reading, family be the witnesses to sign the license, family to officiate. It was perfect.

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I just had a maid of honor - no party - and it was perfect.

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We’re doing the same thing but we’re also against most of the traditional wedding bullshit.

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