Just accepted a job offer today and I’m so nervous to tell my current manager I’m leaving. She is very unapproachable and a little toxic. Scares me, honestly. Really want to just leave and send a resignation email on the way out of the parking lot but I know that is not ethical lol. Need strength and courage

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If she responds negatively, consider it even more confirmation that you've made the right decision. Don't let her toxicity impact you. You are on your way to bigger and better things. Just tell her succinctly and professionally, and then walk out holding your head high.

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This. Suggest you schedule a 15 minute call with her and say something along the lines of "I've learned a lot on this team and it's difficult for me to do this, but I've decided to pursue a new opportunity to continue the growth in my career." if you get pushback, just reiterate that you need something new and that you're doing this for yourself

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In my experience I’ve built that conversation up to be worse than it actually is. I’ve had it go poorly once but it was more awkward than anything. Think of it this way, they need you to train someone on your tasks so you have the power, also you’re leaving a toxic situation so if they’re upset who cares.

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It probably won’t be as bad as you think, TBH. If she freaks out and walks you out that day you’ll likely still get paid for a couple of weeks. If she’s horrible but doesn’t walk you out just law low for a couple of weeks, secure in the knowledge you made the right decision. Good luck and congrats on the new role!

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Stay strong & know you're doing the best thing you can for yourself. I also like the suggestion above to have something simple prepared to say so you don't freak yourself out trying to come up with words on the spot. You've got this. It's a great opportunity to grow & confidently stand up for yourself and what you need.

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She can’t hurt you anymore. Remember that

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An update: I put my big girl pants on and it went well! A lot better than anticipated. I feel a lot lighter now. Excited for a new chapter!

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Congrats. I was about to say I was in a similar situation two months ago and got advice from my peer mentor to keep it short and professional. When I told my old boss, he was shocked and didn’t know how to process, so he ended the meeting in less than 5 mins. 🤣🤣🤣

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I think if she is a toxic person, she doesn't deserve more than an email.

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I understand the desire to do that, but it’s a small world, be the bigger person. If you do that and it gets back to their boss of their colleagues you never know how many people have a bad taste in my mouth from that.

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I read the first sentence and was expecting you to say you cannot bring yourself to tell her because the boss is so nice to you. I was in that situation before leaving for grad school. I cried on my last day too but even with that, I always believe that an employer is an employer. If the company has to lay off someone, a boss will never leave just so you can stay. I mean, the company will never be my family, ever. Do not get too emotionally attached to a colleague, ever. If the person is toxic, it's even much easier to leave.

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