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One of the worst things to deal with, the sort of things that really ends up overshadowing all the good work someone does, is someone with an ego-related chip on their shoulder.
This is one of the biggest things that can derail someone's career because they just end up looking weird: if you're so qualified, why weren't you hired as that higher level directly? If you're so smart and above all this, why don't you just leave and get a job at your level?
Do what you want OP, but just realize that the person with all of the power, tenure at the company, relationships and influence at the company is your boss.
If this bothers you so much, it would be best to leave. Otherwise stay in your lane until your boss or other management notice what an amazing job you do and promote you any way.
(I am almost middle age myself... and am super conscious to treat anyone younger than me with the respect that their position gives them, and actually use my years of experience and wisdom to understand how power dynamics at work actually play out and how I can actually navigate them)
In Asian countries, regardless of the person’s experiences, if they appear older, you talk to them with a level of respect. Because you never know the experience they bring will actually teach you something at least that’s what I do and my team members are much older.
TBH, she could be AWFUL, but ultimately if you don’t want to lead anymore due to the pressure and toxicity…just leave it. She will learn but it’s not your place to coach her/hold her accountable.
Unless she’s actually coming for your job, it’s not worth picking a fight or going over her head IMO.
If you do actually care to make her better. See if you can have coffee or lunch (or an informal call) to just share that you’re feeling a little disheartened by her approach and that you take a lot of pride in your work. See what she says.
Is there any merit to what she is telling you? There is obviously the option to leave