Maybe I’m jealous… But every day my friend has lunch with her husband… She’s not working and he works at home… And then we can’t talk during the time she’s preparing to cook and eating with him. Thoughts?

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Just talk to her at some other time of the day. No big deal.

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You should be happy for them for sure. That's a beautiful thing they have. You have to remember, in a successful marriage, the wife is the husband's best friend and the husband is the wife's best friend. There is nothing they can't tell each other. It's annoying that you can't talk to your friend when you want but that should really be it.

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I’m very happy for them.

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She’s cooking alright but it ain’t food

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Your friend prioritizing her husband (and vice versa) in this respect is a normal and good thing. I personally would feel weirded out if a close friend of mine wanted to talk to me pretty regularly when they’re already married.

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that’s not what im saying lol. i meant its normal for married couples to prioritize each other’s time and routines, especially around meals or daily moments like that. it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ever talk to your friend or talk to her regularly whatever that would look like between you two. its just that it makes sense her husband comes first before her friends

I work from home and my husband works at the office. I cook fresh food for him for lunch and he comes home to eat with me. I’m a public tax accountant. It works for us! During busy seasons, like now, I buy pre made food from Costco or Trader Joe’s to make it easier on me but the other times, I make soentning from scratch and we both love it.

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I love that :-)… I have never gone to Trader Joe’s and there’s one by my house and I need to figure that out… You recommended for lunch meals… You need to heat it up via microwave or?

I’d love to know how long they’ve been married that they do that…

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Over 27 years … but they only started that 4 years ago when they both worked from home

No need to feel jealous, honestly. Everyone’s situation is different. Try joining in their plans when you can, and in the meantime, focus on things that make you feel good mentally, physically, and spiritually. Also, talk with your husband and figure out ways to make the most of the time you do have together.

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Are you single?

No. My hubs works in sales and in office or on road every day. He reaches out many times a day so it’s not like he doesn’t pay attention to me :)

I would never cook every day like that so not totally jealous

It's not the cooking you are jealous of. It's the attention/care she is (rightfully) giving to her husband and not to you.

You jealous and thats ok sometimes. You just need to find you someone to spend time with like she did. There is always time to talk to your friend though it's not like they eating all day none stop.

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