Girl I was seeing 6 months ago went suddenly cold and blocked me off all socials saying she wasn’t ready etc. Now she’s tried to follow me on insta out of the blue. It hurt at the time and so has opened a bit of a wound. A bit confused as to what she might want?

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She wants convenience and for things to happen only on her terms. If she has something honest and vulnerable to share with you, she has your number (I presume)

I’d ignore it, no need to engage

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Brother. She is for the streets. Focus on yourself. You just need a new one. She broke. You’re up brother

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Do what she didn’t do, be direct and ask her

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Drop her. She’s playing games.

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Was probably weighing her options at the time. Maybe her 1st choice didn’t work out and now she’s “settling” for you. Ignore her, she doesn’t deserve a response. Move on and don’t look back.

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STRICT NO.

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Sheesh, tough crowd.There’s not enough info.

How long were you seeing each other before she disappeared?

What was it that she wasn’t ready for? Intimacy? A relationship? Marriage? Did you push it? Were you open to being friends?

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Ahhh okay. Thanks for the additional info. Sounds like she wasn’t ready because she wasn’t over her ex and wanted to pursue things with him again. Her reappearance most likely means that it didn’t work out.

Seems like there are still some feelings there on your end, so you’ll need to decide if you want to risk it - risk her going back to ex again and risk that wound opening up a little further.

If you’re absolutely certain you want nothing to do with girl, decline the request and move forward. If there is indeed still feeling there, accept it. Accepting the request opens the door and let’s her know it’s okay to walk in. You were open to being friends before. So the question is, do you want her back in your life? As friends, as lovers, as anything?

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Ask her.

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Actually. I take it back dont ask her anything, if shes just following you snd not texting you she doesnt deserve your energy

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Anyone who’s willing to ghost you after 6 months isn’t worth dignifying with a response when they decide to reinsert themselves in your life.

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Do not bother asking! Pls you’ll be more confused. She’s playing games. Keep your peace ☮️ she wants to get you riled up on the inside.

She didn’t go cold per se. It sounds like she did tell you why she disappeared if she said she wasn’t ready. Perhaps she’s ready now and trying to feel you out before sending a random text. If you’re still open, accept the follow. If you’re not, decline it.

Fair. People respond in different ways. I’ve always been more inclined to give others the benefit of doubt. People make mistakes, things happen. I believe in second chances.

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Block her. She seems toxic

Nah. Know your worth

No I wouldn’t do it. Things did not work out between her and the other person and she’s trying to use you as a backup. Don’t settle for that.

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