My wedding is making me miserable. We ended up choosing a city / venue that I’m not super thrilled with (it’s just not giving me aesthetic I want) and it’s turning out to be 3x expensive (part of rationale for choosing as it would be cheaper). I just hate my wedding and don’t know what to do. It’s too late to switch locations (we’ve just paid too many deposits). I know it shouldn’t matter etc but I’m still upset for not going with another city. Anybody ever felt similar?

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Yes, in some ways feeling similarly. We picked a more expensive city knowing it would be easier for my fiancé’s family to attend, but it’s still hard to stomach.

At the end of the day, for me at least, it helps me to focus on the fact that the big thing is that we are getting married and everything else is minor in comparison.

I get to marry the love of my life and if that means I have to spend more than I was anticipating or make some other sacrifices for wedding day, it’s still worth it 10 out of 10 times.

It’s about you committing to your SO and everything else is secondary.

That being said - wedding planning can still be stressful and suck sometimes.

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Omg yes 10000%. We planned a whole wedding in our home state and then had to move 12 hours away for work so now our wedding is in a place where neither us nor our family or friends live…so it’s a destination wedding to essentially no where special in January. We couldn’t lose all the deposit money and still afford a wedding elsewhere so now we’re stuck with this situation…and because we don’t live there now we have to pay even more to have somewhere for us and our families to spend the weekend. Oh and also I don’t fit in my dress because I’ve gained stress weight so now I have to try to lose 10lbs during Christmas. So…yeah I feel you.

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You might feel like the venue is a big deal, but it’s really not. I got married recently and don’t even remember those details. Was way more wrapped up in spending time with my loved ones. If you had to concede on location (which I did too), find other things that you want to prioritize and communicate you really want them since the location didn’t work out. Also it’s just a wedding haha life goes on

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