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I stopped doing a whole lot of extra stuff. Impacted my ability to move up and ultimately led to a layoff. I'm okay with it. $ is important but if I make 30k less or even 50k less I'll manage accordingly.
You only have 15 or so years before your kids feel like they don't need you.
Just don't be the parent whose kid draws them away from the rest of the family because you're never around (traveling or working long hours).
There are local projects and firms roles that don’t require travel. I haven’t traveled for a couple of years
It’s called getting a job where you don’t have to ask to be “excused” you’re not a slave…
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The guilt or fear of missing out doesn’t go away, but I remind myself that I don’t get this time back and if I died - work would replace me and move on no problem. You and your life, your kids, your family - way more important than work. You are a free agent - and not obligated to you job more than a normal schedule/what you commit to. I would recommend you look at integrating work into what works for you. I work mostly normal hours but step out for an hour still to help my kiddo nap. I have colleagues that leave for pick up at 3 and log on late to close out. I log on late some nights and some days my partner and I trade off so I can log on before the nanny starts. It takes time, and what works changes so don’t be too hard on yourself. Reminder though, integrating your priorities doesn’t mean do everything all the time - I don’t have my work email me notify me ever on my phone or teams. If I check it I am dedicating time to check it. Just make sure to be flexible but set boundaries so you can be fully present at work vs. with your kiddo the majority of the time. No one is perfect! Congrats on being a Dad OP. You are doing better than you think!
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First, it helped to hear that. You do feel like you’re not doing enough, in the moment. So thank you! Second, I definitely think I can take inspiration from you. I feel like I see the kid 30 minutes before bed time. Would kill to spend a quality hour with him during the day. And lord knows I’m gonna more than make up for it at work during the bookends of the day.
Your kids are only little for 5 years, you will never get that time back. But you are 100% replaceable (even if they are you feel like you aren't). Don't feel guilty
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Solidarity! Thanks
Approach it as figuring out WLB. Have times where work needs to stop and you have to focus on other aspects. If you need to communicate with work about it and with family. New parents, and seasoned parents, have a lot going on and it’s hard to figure it all out, you are not alone there.
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Good to know the feeling won’t go away anytime soon 😅
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. I added to my signature “At EY, we work with global teams and my working hours may not be your working hours. Please do not feel obligated to respond immediately unless specifically requested above.”
I do my ~8:15-4:45 because that’s what I can do during daycare hours and then log on for the extra important stuff. You’ll notice quickly what’s worth the late night log on and what’s not. I’m at full utilization and meeting team and practice expectations so I consider it a win. I can be fully present at home and fully present at work, but not both at the same time.
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Yes, biz dev and client dinners and necessary evils in consulting and killing me
Dad of 3 here. I set expectations with the client & team about availability late evenings & early mornings. If it’s urgent, I’ll be multi tasking on the fone during kids dinner time. At the other end of the stick I ensure that I’m delivering on my tasks. I have no guilt and have had no issues for 7 years of parenting.
For important all day workshops that run late, I make arrangements. But workshops are not an everyday thing.
Nope it’s not about being at the top. As long as u proactively communicate & get things done, no one will care.
You must decide what is more important bring a good dad or climbing the ladder. If you want to be a decent parent you need to set clear boundaries and yes, that means setting the expectation that your work day ends at five
It is. It’s a “flipping life on its head” kind of event.