New manager here, and I am struggling getting used to the authority. How do I break out of my shell and start feeling confident with my decisions? I am so used to needing to check in with a manager before making a decision, but in this role, my boss has told me that they defer to me. I know when I should lean on my boss for advice or approvals, but I don't want to do it so frequently, and for things, I should do on my own that they feel I am incapable of managing.

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Congratulations on the new position. Whenever you're in doubt, remember you were chosen for this role! The day you signed the acceptance letter doesn't mean you're supposed to immediately know everything. The best way to learn is by asking questions, getting input by others in the organization and ask for guidance. You take what you learn and you manage a plan to complete "said task" Don't be afraid to make mistakes or the wrong decisions. It's what you learn that builds your growth. Trust me.. good leaders say "no question is a stupid question" Good luck!!!

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If you’re nervous about certain decisions, decide where your limits are. For example, in my position I talk to my direct boss for anything over 100K but I’ll have quotes for my contractors and have it reasoned out on who should be selected but just to verify before I spend larger sums. If there’s an issue with a contractor depending on the severity of it I’ll either deal with it or if it’s too big then I get help from my boss and that’s more because my back bone isn’t as developed. My thing is, is that we are in the positions we are for a reason but we also have our limits on where we feel comfortable until you get more experience.

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Fake it til you make it, ask your peers for support. Best advice I’ve received was from other managers.

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Think about when you were in the reverse position. How did you respond to the tasks you were given? What type of delegation did you prefer, i.e., direct and kurt, supportive and collaborative, short and concise? Get to know your people, and you will learn what they respond to and how to motivate them to get the job done. Don't be afraid of hurting feelings. They understand that there's work to be done and you are directing them to complete the tasks. If you get pushback, then you remind them that this is not personal and that you are there to make sure everyone's doing what they're supposed to and keep the business running smoothly so everyone's profitable.
With regard to questions, in the beginning, you don't know what you don't know. Questions are expected. One of my favorite quotes is, "The only stupid question is the one that isn't asked." My advice is to write down the questions and answers completely so you can refer back to them. Learn your resource people, write down names, titles, and emails. You can actually use this valuable information to teach others and elevate your position in the future. Don't fear questions because they show that you want to learn and do the best, most complete job.

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Time and also reducing gray area/ understanding expectations. I’ve asked my boss about situations that come up and if he prefers I ask him if this comes up again, or do I what I think is best.

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Rely on the strengths of your team. Learn them and their unique skills. You’re not required to know everything your job is to know enough and to figure out how to support and empower your team to do their best. Also remember in any other previous role or new thing you’re tried it legitimately just takes time to get your bearings. Congratulations

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