Recently moved to a new city and trying to make friends. There are some people around I used to know and so have been reconnecting with them. There’s one person I really like talking to, but how do I go about seeing them a more regular thing without coming across as the needy loner I am? I feel everybody is busy these days and you always have to plan things out in advance and things always just stick to “let’s get lunch every three months.” I like more casual, often meet ups.

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I agree.. I much rather meet up. What are you up to today?

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Funny you shared this. I moved recently due to a separation with a complex change in my family dynamic. That opened my eyes to the fact that I have no community. Friends that we touch base every 3 months, yes but people to share life with, I don’t. So I am Christian, that said I went to a new church and felt comfortable and happy with the preaching. Tried to get into groups to get to meet people and realized that their available groups are directed to “young adults “. I tried to sign up and realized that young adults are from 18-25. 🤡 so that was a bummer. I go to the gym at work (no interaction really with anyone beyond “hey, how are you) and go home. I have a 6yo daughter, so my outings are mostly for her. Which I enjoy but even her complains that she doesn’t have any friends and that breaks my heart. Tried to reach out to some moms to get a playdate. There’s always something happening and they can’t make it. I mean, this is rough. I am an extrovert but things have been hard. Making friends, strike good conversations, find things to that we can share (talk about a book, going to the gym, listening to music together, go for a nice walk, play games, anything lol).

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