Folks that got a prenup. How and where did you get it? We have spoken to a couple of lawyers and it simply seems to be a back and forth they want to do to rack up billable hours/complicate the issue. My SO and I pretty much know what we want. We are doing it mainly to protect my SOs inheritance. Looking for the simplest way to execute this. TIA for any advice.

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I didn’t get a prenup (because I’m not married lol) but your post reminded me about the company HelloPrenup that I watched on Shark Tank a while back, could be an option for you

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If you're in the U.S. you may not need a prenup just to protect that asset. Keep in mind the following is very general advice. Your state laws/case law may have a different outcome. GENERALLY SPEAKING, if you are referring to either an asset your S.O. possessed before marriage OR something they will inherit from a dead relative, this is NOT marital property. It can become marital property if after the marriage it is intermingled with marital funds and you don't want to hire a forensic accountant to split all that up (or you invest it in something like a marital home).

Also, most good attorneys are not trying to rack up billable hours intentionally on something like this. It could be that they're just not getting the right type of useful information from the client or you're both trying to use the same attorney and are creatinga conflict. It's not your fault. It could be their fault for not asking the right questions in the right way or nor educating you properly on the issues.

I'd still advise you talk to an attorney and get a prenup. They make divorce soo much quicker (and cheaper).

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Thank you AA. Very insightful

We both have a belief system that divorce is not a thing. It's simply to keep her family property out. Their estate has already been split up and assigned to the siblings. The parents want it to go directly to the children or grandchildren but not to the partner.

I would try to draw up as much as you can on your own, and for your SO to have a lawyer draft it, and then you hire a lawyer to review it. If it's really just to protect his inheritance, then this shouldn't be that difficult and should be able to be taken care of with a few billable hours from a lawyer (depending on how long it actually takes to draft the document)

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