So how do you get men in the office and community to stop exploiting your labor, time, and energy for free? I noticed a lot of professional orgs happily want me to drive and donate my time to their board, but I get nothing in return. How do you force a mutual transaction?

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I hear assertive men and women respond with these types of phrases all the time “I do have an opinion on that. But I don’t work for free.” That’s quite a cheeky version. Point is, they ask for compensation or make it clear their service comes with a price. How often are you doing this?

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Everything has some sort of return, whether it’s just helping a friend or coworker, gaining a title on your resume for volunteering, experience, helping the community, ect.

I don’t really think gender has anything to do with a person or businesses capacity and tendency to exploit free labor.

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As a recovering people pleaser in a patriarchy I guarantee you this is false.

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