Pretty tired of smart women undermining each other, especially seniors doing it to juniors. Why the hell is the first instinct to attack&destroy? Not into kumbayas but more into having my peer's back.

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I'm a woman and the best bosses and mentors I've had have also been women. It really depends on the person more than the gender. And they've taught me how to work with men and have sometimes even protected me from them... I hope you come across those more

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I agree ^ I've had similarly strong female mentors in my past and I am so thankful. I do whatever I can to try and give back to the universe and be supportive of other women regardless of level or department. What kills me now that I am more senior is female juniors who try to undermine me...

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Absolutely! And Own It by Sallie Krawcheck-- both had great insight on why women do this to other women and how to not continue the cycle.

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Have you read Feminist Fight Club by Jessica Bennet?

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I've been lucky to have amazing female mentors myself and met others, which is probably why these outliers stick out :) alright, venting session over ✌️

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Yep. Best thing to combat racism and sexism is support each other.

Please elaborate your experience . Tell us a about a situation and how it affects your work

Not yet - is it worth it?

Thank you

Hah that's just stupid on their end @72andsunny. I hear you and @Wunderman. I'm talking more about same level women, sameish age. Seems like this is the bigger/more frequent problem, beyond simple competition. Although I was once regularly schooled about life in public by a more senior woman who was my age and she knew it but publicly pretended I was much younger.

@OP yeah it's totally dumb. I think the thing is, that we're competing for the same few slots. If we're all competing to be the ONE female CD team or the ONE female EP, some people would rather have that title in front of them than work to expand the opportunities for the most qualified to succeed regardless of gender (or race). It's selfish and super small-level thinking - I don't agree with it but I get it.

Oh. Sorry, your question does say "especially seniors doing it to juniors" :) Hence the answers:)

The story with Elizabeth Warren reminded me when a CD literally told me to shut up in a full team meeting when I was also literally trying to save everyone's ass.

With really a lot at stake for everyone. It was his mistake. But still went with it and told me to shut up. Ugh.

I've seen senior women undermining juniors but they are not by any means smart. A smart women ,or man for that matter, empowers people around her. When someone undermines others it's because they feel threatened and they secretly know they don't deserve their position.

Vicious back-stabbing bitches strike back on Wednesdays guys

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