Struggling to wind down after work. Sometimes it feels like I turned this job into my entire personality. I can barely go past an hour at a social event. Does anyone else have a similar experience with this? How do you go about it?

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Read Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Kevin Gilmartin. It will explain why that is happening. Also learn some “resiliency” stuff like breath work, mindfulness, etc. The trust me, it would be worth your effort.

I used to be like you. But it’s not worth it. The best way to remain sane, I find is, to cut the job off my mind when I leave the building. It always will be part of your (my) personality but it is healthier and very important to keep it under control and separate it from home life. I care but I don’t care so much as to fall prey to it’s controlling my moods or interests

I know what you mean I find myself saying "I'm a police officer" at least five times a day. It's like a fraternity.

I don't know if it's a good or bad thing. It means we love our job but it has to be something else that I love about my life that I can mention lol

Yes I do! I'm really trying to find new hobbies so that have others things to do with my time and things to talk about. I know I sound like a broken record

I have definitely taken my cases home with me because I invest so much time and effort into them that it's hard not to. My wife and friends complain about my work consuming me a lot.

Same here! I haven't noticed it at first. It was my partner who pointed it out to me.

I've been like that during my first few years in service. I try my best to be social as possible. I guess I still have a long way to go.

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