Talk to me about discipline. What age did you really start laying down the law? Im patiently waiting out the terrible twos but at some point will need to reign it in if this continues...

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My husband and I have a 20 year old who is a college sophomore.

Discipline begins as soon as understanding does, then no “laying down the law” is needed.

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Got a two myself. Only “discipline” we’ve really done is taking away screen time and a few time outs, but we always make sure she knows what she did wrong (like we have her actually tell us).

How bad has it gotten?

When mine is having a nonesensical tantrum, I completely ignore her and go about business as usual. This is purely attention seeking behavior, I’ll speak to her like normal “would you like a snack, water? No response ok, guess not” sometimes the conversation is a distraction and snaps her out of it. Other times, I just let her finish then ask, does that feel much better? Just needed to get it out? That’s ok, we all have moments and that’s the end of it

We’re trying to figure this out. Mine is approaching 3 so we’re reaching a breaking point.

Soo...expecting my first, but ran across this article as we’re reading and preparing. The timing also fits with when my parents started to discipline my younger siblings.

https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/toddler/when-does-discipline-begin

Daughter is 2yrs 3 months and we started “discipline” around 18 months. She now understands “the look” of when we mean business and the stern voice “stop,” being a toddler there are times when she will repeat it and tell you to stop but then if she doesn’t listen it’s time for timeout (timeout started around 2). She’s pretty well behaved for the most part but we all have our days, if she’s just cranky in general that day then I give her a bit more loving but if she’s just being naughty then she gets timeout. Try to be patient (trust me, I know this is easier said than done with a toddler) and read their cues

I started discipline when my children learned to speak well. Between 2-3.

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