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Hi Fishes,
Yesterday was my joining in capgemini. But, my bgv is not yet cleared as I do not have e-aadhaar.
I submitted my adhar scanned copy but bgv team is telling e-aadhaar is mandatory.
I couldn't download e-aadhaar as my mobile is not yet linked to adhaar.
Will capgemini on board without e-aadhaar?
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Treat them as roommates you don’t like. No need to talk much just hi and bye.
Sister, I am a recently married woman myself. Ours is a love marriage as well. There are many aspects of married life on which me and my husband are not on the same page. One thing I have made a habit of, is keeping my in-laws happy and make them feel seen and respected. You do not need to love anyone, just treat them with kindness and eventually you will grow to love them. Please do not think of drastic steps like divorce without having a proper conversation with your husband/family and trying couples therapy
I wish in another parallel universe, there is this same expectation for all the boys to live with girls parents for life and take responsibility of everything and try to ADJUST.
Hope things get better for you.
What other alternatives for you have? Since both (husband and wife) are working, later on in life they will require support from parents to look after their kids.
* Either both husband and wife leave their parents and live some other place.
* The second option is both can stay with either one of the parents, either paternal or maternal
* The third is that you both buy a bunglow and move both families together
Considering you want to stay with parents, you can go with the second or third. Choose your option 😜
Try onsite .
Believe me I understand.
Makes sense. This can actually be tried.
I am recently married ..or ek baat smjh agyi ache se ki tum kitna hi krloo wo kbhi apse khush nhi honge agar wo hona hi nh chahte. Kuch na kuch kami zarur nikalege .
Islie effort dalna bnd krdo jo basic responsibility h wo zarur puri kro and dont expect ..else u will hurt urself
People are so stupid these days. Must say.
Please elaborate a little bit just so that I understand.
Don't you want the same qualities in your kids? Don't you want them to adore, travel and spend time with you? You want them to leave you at an older age and stay independently?
Well marriage comes with certain responsibilities and adjustments. Well if you are thinking of Divorce then it's a very petty action.
if your only problem is adjusting with in-laws, then don't go for divorce..
Have a conversation with your husband and try if you can rent a house in nearby locality.. so that your husband can visit his parents whenever needed..
If you are planning to have a kid soon, then staying with family helps a lot as they can take good care of baby..
I have had this conversation. He is clear that staying separately won't work out. His parents are old school and getting them to understand itself is almost not possible. In my situation I am quite scared to even think of planning a kid because of the uncertainties.
May I know if this was a love or arranged marriage?
It was a love marriage but the family part of it didn't seem to be a concern back then. After actually living together the realization and these feelings sinked in.
It’s crazy! So you want a divorce just because you don’t feel affectionate to your in laws? Seems like they aren’t bothering you
What are variables that is causing trouble like Food habits, social Or financial perception etc?
Going to be in a similar phase.
Have a real and serious convo about it and give your husband examples of what has happened and reasons why you would want to live separately. If he still does not listen and does not give it a try for your sake, then tell him what is going on in your head to him