I married my gf 2 years back after a long relationship, and having disagreement from both of our parents, finally they agreed even though she is from another part of the country and from a different cast.

forward to now....
I'm just following all their rituals and ceremonies as per their customs why ???
Because they say the do like this or that, when it comes my side of things then they say oh we don't follow like that.

It's painful you know , seeing my.parents and my self helpless in that

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Sir have a honest discussion with your gf. What is her opinion. If she is of the same opinion, you need to reconsider your decision.

Equality should be from both sides. This will eat you up later and either you will live a suffocating life or it will end in separation.

Atleast your gf should be appreciative of your parents and you for compromising.

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If you are planning to marry her. I believe u should have a open conversation

If girl side is doing marriage generally it happens as per their traditions,

But if you guys request for a particular tradition and they don't accept it's readflag you have to talk.

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