Was it tough adjusting when you returned to work from paternity leave? I’m just having a hard time with the lack of sleep...don’t feel like I’m able to think as quickly as I could pre child. Thoughts?

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Welcome to our sleep deprived world! Lack of sleep is a definite issue - our body adjusts to it, and you will too. Alternatively, you’ll learn to nap along with the baby when home, and make up for it with longer sleep times in the hotel.
But to answer your first question, it’s incredibly hard to adjust back, yes. You miss your child, and feel guilt at being away when your wife is shouldering the burden. I’d accept it and double the effort at home when you go back.

Dealing with my wife’s post partum was difficult for me - she was still incredibly emotional, and I admit I reacted badly to it in spite of being aware of what she was going through. In retrospect, thicker skin would have been ideal.
You’ll pull through - most of us do :)

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Yes it sucked. Yes it gets better :)

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Yes, in many ways, in addition to sleeplessness. I was highly recommended to accept it as it is. I also leaned on systems to organize and make day to day more manageable. Some sleep hacks I’ve used since college days (pulling all-nighters were frequent in my curriculum and first jobs) are the 15 min caffeine power-nap for lunch, removing caffeine altogether (my preferred method), drinking something warm, standing desks/activity, and meditation.

My daughter is now four months old, and I continue to search for ways to rise to the occasion of being a father, husband, friend, and an employee/business owner.

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