What should the rules be about asking out a more junior woman at the same company? I’d like to but am concerned with getting fired

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Nah OP don't be a cradle snatcher.

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If she’s in your reporting line don’t, if she isn’t then tread carefully

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Don't do it if you are on the same team or if you are their DGL. If you are a partner the optics will suck but you should know the rules better than anyone else here. Several BAs have openly dated EMs in the office so it isn't that big a deal.

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Just don’t. The world is big, the firm is small.

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I think it’s nuanced. What makes you want to ask her out? Have you worked together and formed a bond? Is she just really hot? Do you care about her feelings?

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As long as you are respectful and only ask once, you are acting appropriately (this assumes she does not report to you). The MeToo movement isn’t about men never asking women out on dates ever again.

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I’m an EM, she’s a BA. she’s not on my team but could easily get staffed on it in the future

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Slay

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I’d go for it. If she says yes and you start dating you need to report it to HR, but that’s it. Then they’d avoid staffing her on your team, so you don’t need to worry about it. It happens a lot actually

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How many levels between BA and EM? I would probably also do some light Facebook/IG stalking to confirm she’s single, no need to make the situation uncomfortable if she’s in a relationship.
And obviously don’t do it if you just want to hook up, but if you feel like you could marry this girl then ask her out.

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If you have to ask... don’t do it
Your doubt hints at a lack on interest from her part, otherwise it might just happen naturally

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Super mixed - have had quite a few unwanted advances but there’s also a cute EM who I wouldn’t mind being asked out by right now

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Think it’s a fair concern 😏

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Is it some mck party in here or something

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How junior bro? Ba, asc? What's ur level?
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If she could easily be staffed on your project why do it. Creates a dynamic which could be interpreted as hierarchical. Leave it alone

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Guys - don’t tell me you have no decks to work on at 10;38 pm ?, back to work please :)

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@mck6 waiting on that partner churn 💁🏻

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A4, we're all interested in dating BAs at McK

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Dating someone with the same work-life balance challenges is either madness or genius. Not sure which.

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