What the toughest feedack you have ever recieved that changed your life or has helped you be better?

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Don’t take everything personally. And believe you me. I took it personally. But after a few weeks of moping I tried to put it in perspective and it has changed my mindset.

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Not an uncommon phrase.

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Don’t let perfect get in the way of done, but understand when perfect is needed.

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Forge your own path and opportunities. No one is going to give you anything even if you deserve it. Everyone has an agenda, make yours your own.

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Thanks 😊

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Would have married you,,but you are FAT!!!That stuck my heart like a dagger.. Made me loose 55 pounds in 6 months and get ripped.. I got a way better partner(beautiful, sensible and successful) than her... Thanks to the lady..

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Funny but not funny.
I am always pudgy when I’m happy and always thin and hot when I’m dumped and alone. This happy marriage thing really sucks.

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Things are not black and white. Learn to play in grey and color things grey

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Fifty shades of feedback 😀

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You have to put yourself out there and be your own best advocate. Tough for a naturally shy person to hear and implement, but the initial discomfort did eventually pay off.

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Talking too much on bullshit is tiring 🥲

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If you want a big pay raise, you are going to have to leave.

So I found a new job that doubled my salary.

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“You’re going to get someone killed!” When I first joined the Army lol

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That’s what my driving instructor used to tell me 🤣

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Being told that I don’t pay attention in meetings (or don’t appear to) and how that affects people’s perception of me. It really kicked me into gear to actively listen and find real value in others’ opinions.

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She’s a top performer, she’s a rockstar, but she needs “refinement”.

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C2- because people from Poland are cool

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Being told why I always have difficulty remembering names - because I don’t care about random strangers (which is true, and led me on a journey to better understand my personality.)

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What does it mean that I forget words?

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“PwC has cut throat culture and maybe you are not cut out for it. You will do better elsewhere. Sorry you got caught in political cross fires”- was told at the time of lay-off and it came from the director who actually hired me and with whom I worked to establish certain things in the practice. It shattered me to pieces at that time. Fast forward to now - working in the capacity of a advisor/manager / someone who wears diff hats and the whole team/practice is looking up to me for guidance. Initially was rough as it took a while to shook that worthless feeling but eventually I am in a better and rewarding place.

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"I'm pregnant, and it's yours"

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Nooooooooooooooooooooo

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My dad told me I wasn't good enough to start on our 12U tournament team. Since I was the coach's son, he said I had to be the clear better player and he would work with me every day til that was true.

Pretty harsh for a kid but I learned that if someone is willing to work with you on their perception of your weaknesses, then they truly care about your progress.

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Zero defect ... haunts me day and night ever since

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“Everyone really likes, but you have moments when you come accross so damn arrogant. Stop acting like this. It will limit your career potential”

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Not really feedback, but I was fired from my first job out of UG due to poor performance. At the time, I was partying 4-5x per week (booze, weed, coke....), focusing primarily on hooking up with chicks and overall not taking my job seriously, partially because I was immature and partially because I didn’t like the job and was even a bit embarrassed by it because I went to a “target” UG university and most of my peers were in much better positions. I didn’t have respect for my firm thought I could get by being a fun guy at the bar, a lax bro in the office and “networking” through hanging out with like-minded frat stars outside of work - essentially, the way I succeeded socially in college. Being fired was the biggest ego-check I’ve ever received and, although it sounds cliche, was one of the best things to ever happen to me. It was a real wake up call that I needed to make serious life changes. I moved out of the 5-person apt I shared with friends who were bad influences, got a GF, began focusing on my GMATs rather than bender until 5 am and now, several years later, I’m in a better job I like more at a better firm and on a fast track to Partner. Plus, my old boss who fired me now lives in the same building as me but in a way crappier apt which is a great source of (materialistic) enjoyment.

I still party though, just not nearly as much :)

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If you haven’t knocked on their door and ran away at 4 am I hope you rectify that immediately.

Someone once told me “Get rich or die trying”, it has changed me life.

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Would you rather go out in a blaze of glory or live old and be forgotten - Dexter DeShawn

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A manager asked me "Do you really want to work? Because people are interpreting your attitude as you don't."

I definitely made me pause and look at things in a different way. I needed an attitude readjustment.

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I was doing my work but, dealing with a few micromanagers. So, my natural reaction was to stand back and let them do what they wanted while I watched. Everyone has their way of doing things.

Recently was told not to bother even trying for a promotion (regardless of stellar feedback on projects) based on my YoE, firm dynamics, and COVID uncertainty. Appreciated the honesty so that I can scale down my efforts and actually enjoy life again. Not at all saying I'm going to slack, but not going to be over delivering any more

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I did it the other way around. Not pushing for promotion this year, need to take care of my kids during covid.

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Skills - Snowflake, AWS, Matillion, Airflow
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Dolly Parton’s Super Bowl ad for Squarespace, singing about working 5 to 9....Welcome to my quarantined life in California with clients in the Eastern and Pacific time zones.

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Anyone here work at FIS Global? If so, do you like it? How's the culture? Work life balance?

Thanks!

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Question: what is an “Audit Senior”?

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I'm an introverted person, like to keep to myself, focus on work, spend the rest of my time on family, gym etc. I've been told that I need to work on my communication and client relationship building skills. any books I can read? I don't follow pop. culture anymore, no longer actively follow team sports (but sporty myself) as I consider it bread and circus for the masses and don't rly enjoy work drinks... Am I doomed? Personally I am happy and love the work but fear for my career progression.

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Curious home much which school you went to impacts your first job.

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U of Tennessee(2015), Supply Chain, 55k

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An MD calls a consultant a “beta”:

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I think I made a faux pas during a discussion with a recruiter when asked what my salary expectations were. I KNOW not to give my number first but I was so caught off guard by the question since it was our initial discussion that I just blurted out a range. I’m afraid that I’ve now locked myself into a range with little room to negotiate if extended an offer. Any advice for how to proceed?

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Working for Deloitte. To preface I’ve been an FTE at large insurance/healthcare companies for over 10 years. In process of interviewing for a “Senior consultant role” location TN recruiter is asking for salary but won’t tell me what range is. Can someone provide me a ballpark figure working in cloud. Also would you consider this a step up career wise? I’m currently a EUT Architect

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