What’s a lesson you learned the hard way in HR?
I feel delaying difficult conversations rarely makes them easier.

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The #1 lesson I learned is you are a consultant. It's not your company and no one has to follow your advice. You probably aren't being told the whole story anyways.

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Ain't that the truth. And yet we're the ones blamed by employees and managers.

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A few in my 45 years. Early in my career, I learned the hard way to be more diplomatic when telling a VP that his directive to tell a man who complained of sexual harassment by another man to just "be a man" and suck it up was a terrible idea. This was before the Oncale decision, but I didn't want my company to be the SCOTUS case that decided that. That literally canceled the promotion I had already been told was mine.

A decade later I made the foolish mistake of requesting a raise in a start-up company that was paying tens of thousands more than market to the new hires, while I was being paid tens of thousands less. That destroyed any credibility I had with the COO, my boss.

Mine would be that avoiding difficult conversations almost always makes them harder. Problems rarely improve on their own.

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