When weekend work is a necessity but you can’t negotiate your toddler’s needs/timeline with them, how do you handle with your team? Are you straight up about it? Every time I am I feel silently judged. Can’t decide if it’s just in my head.

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They can judge you if they want, but it’s not reasonable to expect you to be plugged in and available at every moment during non-work hours. Just be matter-of-fact about it: “Need to do xyz for my kid, will be available at xyz time.” If they don’t want to be on my toddler’s timeline, they can ask me on a weekday.

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I’d be honest. Your child needs you and that is most important. I ask my team to be sure they balance and if it’s not working, I, as their manager, will step in and help. I feel any supervisor should make the same consideration.

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Ugh. I feel you. I do not mention my kids, unless with fellow women leaders that I trust (there are only a couple). Otherwise, I get done what I can in the time that I have, lie about what the obligation is that I have to work around (my partner has a covid test, I need to pick up a prescription for my dad, etc.). People are so judgmental about kids it's awful, but are fine with other obligations. Good luck.

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On the weekend, I think prioritizing your family is fair game. When you’re assigned work say, ok, but first I need to do x y z. I hope the weekend work is few and far between for you.

Do you have any additional child care coverage for when this happens? Like your spouse or family, friends, or babysitter? Weekend work is kindof a given in advertising from time to time. Be honest with your team that you will be working during off hours to get your work done. I always try to make sure I am not leaving my team waiting and I try to remember that they also have plans and lives too. While I love my kids and prioritize them, they don’t have to. Not saying you’re doing any of this OP, but if they are annoyed that might be why...

If they are annoyed maybe they should try next time creating realistic timelines and communicating fair expectations to a client. Once in a while over a legitimate situation ok. But should definitely not be a norm. And should be be looked on as “expected of advertising” this is an issue in the industry we all should acknowledge is not ok and needs to be worked on not taken as a norm. It’s not.

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