How do I nicely tell a director (not the one I report to) that I don’t want to work on a project that she’s trying to get me on? My manager and I already had a conversation about me not working on this specific thing (he and I both agree it isn’t something that’ll help my case for promotion, doesn’t need three people working on it, etc). Manager said he’d talk to her but it isn’t sinking in…

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Do you have a good relationship with other partners/directors? They might have other projects where it might be a better fit for you (or at the very least ghost book you onto something) that would give you a better case not to work on that project

Most people in the firm agree it isn’t the type of project that is 1) worth my time 2) not really a value add 3) doesn’t require three people… requires only 1. I could talk to other partners / directors but it might make my direct manager look bad and I don’t want to do that

Sure most people in the firm can agree but if those people are not presenting you with other projects, you’re stuck with this project because it’s 1) billable, 2) keeps you utilized, and 3) the Director has more pull than your direct manager.

You need a valid reason. Finding another project to keep you utilized will help.

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