Wife tested positive this am!! We probably have 8.5 months max. WHAT DO WE DO TO GET READY?

Seriously, any tips, books to read, etc., would be fantastic. Thanks!

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Congratulations!

Baby just needs clothes, diapers, and milk at first. A lot of social media content is about optimizing every stage of pregnancy, postpartum, and infancy… If that stresses you out, ignore it. For now, all your wife needs to do is continue to take her prenatal vitamin and eat a semi-balanced diet (if that’s just bagels for weeks due to nausea, that’s okay).

My advice would be to enjoy one another. You have the rest of your lives to be parents and worry about your little one, but you have a finite amount of time to be alone, together. (Easier advice to give than take!)

Wishing her an easy pregnancy!

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Thank you so much!

First off, CONGRATS!

Find a hospital your wife is comfortable giving birth in and make sure her OBGYN is affiliated with that hospital so your wife can give birth there. Tour a few! It matters, trust me. While you’re at that, make sure you and your wife LOVE her OBGYN because they will advocate for you and do what’s best for you and your baby even in potentially scary times. Make sure they are also patient and don’t mind answering the million questions you’ll have. Because you will have them. My first doc made me feel terrible when I asked questions like I was a huge bother. My current doc would hang on my every word with a smile and still does. Your doc matters!

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😅 man, that's dope. I mention "midwife" sometimes and people think I'm referring to witchcraft and avoiding western medicine.

Wishing you guys the best and hope it's an easy pregnancy & delivery!

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I just posted the same message at 6-7 weeks. Someone shared a wise message - pregnancy is long. Focus on the basics only (vitamins, nutrition and being healthy)... In time you get to plan babymoon, baby showers if you want or even maternity photoshoots.

Take it one day at a time. And get over one week at a time. It's going to be LONG.

And I am 23 weeks!

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Expecting Better by Emily Oster is great- it gives more of a scientific approach to old wives’ tales to help you feel comfortable with risk (for example, coffee doesn’t need to be stopped cold turkey).
Don’t worry about a baby registry till >20 weeks. Enjoy life together and sleeping in (unless she has insomnia).
Be prepared later on for either early or late delivery - it’s not true that most first time moms are late, you’re just as likely to be early; the due date is an estimate. For reference, I was 3 weeks early the first time, totally spontaneous with no signs, and totally healthy.
Enjoy and congrats !!

Girl after my own heart.
You’re gonna do great - accept all the advice, help, and hand me downs!

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Step 1: she needs prenatal vitamins. A doctor probably won’t see her until she’s around 8 weeks pregnant at a minimum. She may start feeling very tired soon and possibly also nauseous, just be there for her and be willing to pick up extra slack around the house so that she can rest.
Start looking for a good OBGYN on your insurance that delivers at a good hospital located conveniently to you.

The first 2 weeks don’t exist. Pregnancy is counted from the date of her last period. Ovulation and conception don’t occur until around 2 weeks after that, but with the way that we count, you’re considered 2 weeks pregnant upon conception and around 4 weeks pregnant by the time you have a missed period.

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