Hi everyone, have a noob question here. When did you share the pregnancy news with your employer? Not sure when it’s optimal to do that. :)

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20 weeks. I had several miscarriages and you get results from several important tests by then.

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Same. Told manager at 20weeks because that was when I felt comfortable after test results and anatomy scan since I had an ectopic pregnancy just before. Manager and I kept it secret until my third trimester though before telling colleagues and clients. I could easily do that though because I was WFH

Typically my rule of thumb has always been to share news at the beginning of the third trimester. I felt it always gave enough time for my team to prepare for my absence on maternity/paternity leave.

I told my employer at 14 weeks because it was making me too anxious keeping it a secret. My job also plans a lot of projects out 6 months to a year so I thought it best they know and can start planning alternative resources. Very glad I told when I did, at least for me, it brought peace of mind.

I told my employer and partners around the end of my first trimester - honestly, I was so exhausted and nauseous, I found it helpful for other people to know so I could take care of myself properly

Same. Plus, if something goes wrong, I knew I wanted to take bereavement leave, so I felt like I might as well tell them early.

Also 20 weeks after nuchal test and being confident the pregnancy was going ok. seems like most friends I asked said around the same time unless they needed support for particularly bad 1st trimester sickness.

I told my immediate leader in confidence around 12 weeks because I knew I would need some flexibility for appointments. Told our other leadership and some peers after 20 weeks also when I felt confident all was well. In third trimester, I was very upfront with any and everyone I worked with, including clients.

Had hoped to wait to tell at 20w. But I think I told at 16w bc I had to be on set with long hours and was starting to show. I remember being SO nervous to share the news, but I honestly received nothing but congratulations and excitement. Whenever you decide to tell them will be the right time for you. 💛

I posted my experience with my terrible manager below, but before I told her I did reach out to HR. Like I immediately reached out to HR to understand more about the specific details of our benefits (the language was extremely vague) and put it on record that I was pregnant. I was in a similar situation where the workload continued to increase. I was stressed every single day that I was going to get fired, mostly because my boss is extremely unpredictable and irrational. I’m being induced this weekend and took a week of vacation last week and now officially on medical leave and think I’m protected from being let go.

I told my boss at about 11 weeks. She’s an absolute clown and made fun of me at a work event for eating snacks. The next day I told her I was eating snacks because I was pregnant.

It ended up working out because it took her entirely too long to start the process to backfill me and almost didn’t work out.

If it weren’t for the amazing parental leave offered by my company I’d leave, due to my incompetent and insensitive boss. A rock has more emotional intelligence than her.

I told at 9 weeks because I was exhausted and holding it in was stressing me.

I officially told at 16-18 weeks, though I told my senior manager earlier (at ~9-10 weeks). We have a good relationship so I felt I could confide and he was planning our next phase with me as lead and it included international travel during and after my pregnancy. Turned out it was premature to tell but he kept my secret and it was helpful to have an ally during all the team dinners.

I told the senior manager i was working under (and am relatively close with) super early…like 6-7 weeks. We were going to a happy hour after a meeting and didn’t want to lie as to why I wasnt drinking. I told the rest of the people I directly work with kinda early too, like around 10-11 weeks. And then came out to allllll the partners at 12 weeks. I’d just rather them know. No reason to wait in my opinion. If something bad happened, I’d rather have the support. I’m now almost 31 weeks :)

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