👋🏾would love some advice here ladies, I’m dealing with a male 🧔‍♂️coworker who continuously undermines my decisions/actions on projects I lead. I’m 9mo into a new manager role but we now have a new chief comms head and I’m concerned that he’ll undermine me into being his direct report. He’s very sneaky in that he’ll insert himself at certain times to make it appear that he’s in charge and I have proof. Should I be direct and tell him to back off or raise this to cco w/o seeming “non-collaborative”?

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Can you give an example of how he’ll undermine you? For example, is he presenting alternative ideas when you present and his ideas are what’s taken up the chain? It’ll help with giving advice for what you should say to him.

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Nice approach Counsel. I've worked with stakeholders who even after the direct approach continue to do the same thing. I'm s
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