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As it says in the post, there is a critical difference between old vs new friend. I think it is okay to have a close friend of opp sex if they were in their life before you started dating (and even then there should be a healthy barrier). But a new close friend is a bit problematic in my opinion. If it’s a new person, at a minimum you should be included in that relationship such that it’s a friend to both of you.
And to be clear, by close I mean someone you would meet outside of work.
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Lol at all possessive comments here
Truly if you feel threatened by that relationship then I question the trust you have in your partner.
Yeah right? I’m F and pretty regularly have drinks with male coworkers. I mean I tell him where I am so it’s not like it’s a secret. My husband doesn’t bat an eyelash
Honestly, it all depends on your partner. And you'll never be 100% sure of their intentions until you get some proof.
But I guess you just have to trust your partner completely. Nothing good will come out of you getting stressed over his/her relationship with the colleague.
Tbh, they could be just good friends or they could be fcking. It can go either way. People who are cheating don't look any different in public. They maintain that they are colleagues or good friends or any other bullshit.
After putting you in all this dilemma, I'll suggest you to trust your partner and be your natural self. I know it's easier said than done, but this is the only best option as of now I feel.
I believe it is absolutely possible, but it really comes down to your relationship and what the both of you determine as comfortable and not comfortable with. I know for a fact I wouldn’t be, but we’ve never sat down and had a conversation about it, which I think there should be.
If you feel uncomfortable, speak about it.
I don't have problems with having one or two couples that we can hang out with every once in a while, but I would absolutely prohibit a one-on-one relationship, such as with a co-worker, where they are together without my presence. That is asking for trouble, and you rarely have to ask twice. If my wife had such a friendship, I would tell her to scale back and make sure it was purely work-related. If she disregarded that instruction, I would give her one redo and let her know that if she continues to spend time with her friend then she is saying her relationship with him is more important than the one with me. Far be it that I would stand in the way of true love. Truth is, I would have more trouble with other men buzzing around her than the other way around.
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I am a female and I do have a lot of male friends , most of them have been friends with me since before I met my husband . However some I have definitely made after . I am transparent with my husband and discuss my friends and their life events occasionally with him. He isn’t controlling and insecure but that doesn’t mean he isn’t possessive. He definitely advises me for the right reasons . I once went on-site to a completely new country with no friends or known people . I ended up making some random friends , some of those of the opposite sex who helped me go through my time in a lonely country there . My husband was supportive . He would be worried and would caution me a lot of times but always trusted my judgements .
I think it depends on the partner’s behavior. Are they acting like they do with any other friend or are they acting suspicious? This friend did not make a vow in front of everyone y’all know to love, honor, and cherish you. If you feel like they’re not honoring you/the marriage with their behavior that’s something you need to address.
I also agree that childhood vs. new friend are different levels.
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We both have many friends and colleagues of the opposite sex. If you are both responsible and reasonable, there doesn't need to be a problem.
Hell no lol
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It depends. My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex, but we don’t typically spend time with them without the other person there and always in a group setting. If he were hanging out with another woman alone, I would not feel great about it. I probably wouldn’t tell him he couldn’t do it but I would make it clear that I was uncomfortable and ask how he’d feel if I was doing the same thing.