28M, been single 4 months. Just started dating a 21F, one month in. She wants me to unfollow my ex. I don’t follow any of my other exes, only my recent ex that I was with for 5 years. I don’t follow any of my other exes as they had all ended badly in some shape or form (lying, cheating etc.) but my recent ex and I ended things on good, amicable terms (we just realised we wouldn’t be happy with each other long term). Because I was with her for 5 years and we ended amicably, (cont’d in comments)

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21 is young and maybe immature. That might be what you’re seeing. IMO I would not be unfollowing people based on insecurities of someone I’d been dating for 1 month unless she had a real reason for it other than insecurity

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Why are you shocked that a 21 year old is acting immature?

At 28, you shouldn’t be going after anyone under 25.

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Half your age +7 = 21

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That’s because your not over you Ex yet , besides you’ve been single 4 months , that ain’t single , bread can last that long in the freezer 😅 . Give yourself at least a year being single at the minimum. You can’t get over 5 years in 4 months . You’re not being fair to this other girl because your head and heart ain’t in it . Cut her loose , but in the right way , just don’t Ghost . Because it sounds like she’s about to cut you loose .

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You are still attached to your ex.

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Besides the 21 year old being young and naive I don’t disagree with her ask either as a 30 yr old. After 5 years and only 4 months apart and you don’t want to unfollow her kind of feels like you aren’t over them, which is ok too I mean it’s only been 4 months. I think it’s up to you to decide if this new person is worth the unfollow because again 21 is young ig looking for ltr.

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How does she know that you still follow your ex?

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I don’t want to unfollow her. I don’t talk to her at all other than the times she needs to collect post that sometimes still come to my house. Should I unfollow her or is her request unwarranted?

I know gals , aged 19 , with kids

See if you can come up with a compromise- say you will unfollow her for 4 months or something, but that you do care about her and want to stay in friendly touch in the future

Took me over a year to unfollow but it’ll happen eventually/naturally. It’s less of a big deal than you think, but now in the moment I recall how it felt even if they were amicable and muted, etc.

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