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Anyone from Capability Network - T&O?
I'm looking to find a job like the Forward Deployed Engineer role Palantir Technologies in the UK.
I have become hooked on finding a job that involves solving the kinds of problems they presented during their interviews. Although I got to the final round my performance anxiety got the better of me (I think I wanted the job a bit too much...). I will reapply after working in a similar company.
Is it "deep tech" / "data science" or "smart enterprise" that they're doing? Any advice welcome.
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My advice is to do all the tracking/charting your cycle stuff, and if that doesn’t work within the next 3 months, don’t wait to go see a fertility specialists. Not your regular ob/gyn—a specialist. Maybe research doctors and make the appointment now in case there is a wait. This may not be what you want to hear right now, but we all know “just relaxing” is bullshit and if you end up needing assistance, you’ll be so glad you didn’t hesitate.
I agree - plus most REs will tell you to try for 6 months before they can do anything, if need be.
Also, it’s hard work making people - so be kind to yourself!
All the previous comments cover the science part. So, how to handle the waiting: acupuncture was great for me (it’s also supposed to help with conception), yoga, exercise in general, meditation. Travel if you can, take weekend trips. Journal, write about this time. You’ll never have this time again, so take care of yourself, your whole self.
Agree with others on ovulation strips, BBT tracking and using an app to log your data, if you’re not doing those things already. Fertility Friend is a hideous app, but offers the most custom-tailored data, IME. The standard 28-day cycle isn’t reality for many women, so your best odds are to determine your body’s schedule and time things accordingly. Good luck!
Thanks all for the thoughts and advice. This community is magic 🧚🏻♀️
Wondfo fertility kits on amazon. Cycle trackers (love my Fitbit). You really only have a few fertile days in the month. Agree w fertility specialist appointment advice above.
Just here to reiterate the tracking. Get an ovulation test. As ACD1 mentioned, you only have a short window to conceive - so give yourself the best odds by knowing exactly when that is. My last pregnancy was a success because of those tests (my actual peak days were quite far off from my fertility app “prediction” window)
Thanks all, appreciate the advice. I’m doing all the tracking - meant more how to handle psychologically - the waiting 😣
Totally get you. And honestly, the waiting part never ever stops. You wait to get pregnant, then you wait for the 6 week ultrasound, then the 12 week, etc etc. If you do IVF there is tons of waiting involved. So many periods of uncertainty. I guess the biggest coping tip is to get comfortable with uncertainty. Also, to feel completely justified in treating yourself well, whatever that means. I did weekly acupuncture (although honestly a massage would have cost the same and been more delightful), manicures, tarot readings (!), whatever! This shit is really tough. And then there’s parenting...
Do the tracking, find your rhythm and be sure to have sperm in you BEFORE you ovulate. Too many women start the night of ovulation and (depending on the hour count of your window and the speed of the sperm) they miss it.
I have to say... I wish I had found my (PPA/PPD) therapist before I had gotten pregnant. I spent a year with someone who wasn’t trained in handling my POV, after I had my baby. I found the right person. If you’re struggling now and want someone to talk don’t feel like you can’t look for those therapists to talk to. For some (me) it was a long tough road emotionally & physically. Exercise, mediation helped me but I wish I had looked for a therapist who was trained in what I was navigating. XO. I wish you all the luck on your journey. 💛
Figure out your insurance coverage for fertility ahead of time. Saves you figuring it out when you actually want/need it.
I loved a guided meditation called “Visualizing Pregnancy” — really helped me ignore all those pesky statistics about getting preggo after 35. I wound up having two healthy kiddos at 37 & 39. Luckily there are many ways to become a mom these days so try to focus on the end result (motherhood) rather than the journey of getting there ❤️
When I asked specifically what studies the doctors were basing their warnings about having children after the age of 35 — many were not forthcoming. Then I did my own research and many of the studies they referred to were small groups from before 2001; this is unacceptable when you consider the leaps the medical industry has made and how advanced tracking/finding challenges early on are. Do your homework with all doctors.