I can’t tell if I have ADHD or if I’m just lazy and slow

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I love this analogy!!
ADHD is comorbid with depression because we like to pretend it's a personality failure instead of just the cards we were dealt.

And honestly if you stop blaming yourself for not being able to feign interest in work, you'd be able to refocus on finding another more natural source of motivation (for me it's other people) and stop harping on how "lazy" you are.

Part of this whole ballgame is letting go of self deprecation and just letting yourself be.

My mom was describing this quadrant of prioritizing tasks and the four cases were 1)essential and urgent 2) essential non-urgent 3) non essential but urgent (usually what other people put on you) and 4) non essential, non urgent.
She was talking to two young men and coaching them on prioritizing for their grad school PhD programs. harping on the importance of relationships, all of that

After her whole spiel, she looks at me and laughs because she knows I only live in quadrant 1. She used to say "well, you work well under pressure" and I said "nahh, I *only* work if there's pressure". There are nice concepts that work for many people but what works for me is understanding myself, laughing about it, and planning for it. What doesn't work is trying to assess my value by how well I can fit into frameworks for "the majority of people"

I shit you not, this shift in my thinking has led me to the least amount of work, but the most amount of praise and promotion than I've ever heard of in consulting. Top of pay bands, work highly appreciated, engaged advocates, all because I let my body and brain operate the way it likes best. The result is better work and more open doors and more options. Call me lazy, but the strategy is just to maximize the quality of work and minimize how long I spend on it. Some people call this procrastinating 😂😂 it's all spin

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I feel this a lot as well. But have not yet fully harnessed this to be effective. Still feel I’m failing in the procrastination trap.

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I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety for years until I went to a therapist who said sometimes ADHD in girls comes off more as anxiousness. I was put on adderall and I haven’t needed anxiety medication since. This metaphor is so accurate

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I saw a therapist who gave me the diagnosis and just mentioned it to me psych who had me fill out a questionnaire and we increased my visits so if anything was going on he could change the medication

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When does your signs start showing?

I was diagnosed in middle school and got winged off the meds when I was in HS. Those are my symptoms too, I never got them while in college since I was always busy but when I graduated and didn’t have stuff to do they came back quick. Long road trips are horrible for me

Its also important to understand, that as a neurotypical person you may also struggle with some of these issues. Its called a disorder when it becomes too difficult to control, but attention deficit is something a lot of people struggle with in different ways.

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