A partner complimented me the other day and I just stood there like a deer in headlights. I realized I’m way better at absorbing criticism than receiving praise. Anyone else feel like we’re so conditioned to avoid mistakes that we don’t know how to celebrate wins?

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I am the same exact way. I am so used to criticism that I sometimes miss the compliments and nice things people say. It doesn't feel normal to celebrate wins at all.

Compliments always feel like a trap to me. Like I'm supposed to reject it or else I'll be seen as a narcissist or something. It is strange how much more comfortable I am having somebody criticize me.

Good Lord…how long have you been doing this 15 minutes? Appreciate the compliment and expound on the effort. Do not come on here seeking validation which is weak as hell

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