Related Posts
Safe to see friends this weekend?
More Posts
Welcome to the bowl
What are exit opportunities from big 4 ITDD??
I have 2 offers from siemens and tcs .Siemens pays 2 L bonus as extra but ctc part both are same.Which one to prefer as the Location for siemens in blore and tcs can be chennai.Im currently at chennai.
If i accept offer from tcs and not joined there then i can get into tcs in future because of rehire policies .I still have 40 more days to LWD.
I am thinking to reject tcs and wait for some other better offer pay or last choice to join in siemens .Please share your view Im consufed here
New to Fishbowl?
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.




Your mother should no longer be #1 if you have a wife. Period. Jesus Christ people.
You need some boundaries with your mom. Maybe you visit her separately. Maybe you tell her the rules of your house and if she can't respect them, she can't come over. It's not that hard. You don't HAVE to argue with either of them. State your boundary and the consequence and move on. You can't control they follow it, but that's what you decide you do if they don't respect a boundary. That goes for both of them. At the least, they both should respect you enough to respect eachother.
Well, your wife should lay boundaries with her family as well.
But also, why are you here under MY comment if it's such stupid advice. It would be a lot easier, wiser and likely more emotionally mature to just leave YOUR OWN comment giving advice that you THINK is best. There is a way to have an opposing opinion without putting someone else's down. I'm just going to pray for you. 🙏
Repeat after me, to your wife…”yes, my dear. You’re absolutely right.”
My MIL is a horrible person. She talks badly about whoever isn't in the room. Her 2 sisters don't speak to her. She came over one Sunday morning and got so crazy my husband asked her to leave (because I was about to injure her). She kept screeching, louder and louder and louder (over a photo album that I couldn't put my hands on after I searched all my cabinets) until I asked her to please lower her voice. She comes back with "WHY, ARE YOU DRUNK??". WTF? it's 10:00 on Sunday morning. I was so mad I was shaking. She left and I opened the door and said "What is WRONG with you??". She pointed her witchy finger at me and said "Yoouuuu!!!". I slammed the door so hard the house shook. What a nut case. I haven't spoken to her since and surely don't miss her. My husband calls her out of a sense of duty once in a while, and will visit on occasion. He never wants her to know when he's in town.
Talk to your husband, don't let in the snake inside next time or just move to another city for mental peace.
Like your mother?
Tell your momma to back off yesterday.
Like her mother?
Run. Now. Do not look back.
Remember you CANNOT replace your mother no matter what. Yes she might be annoying, yes she might be wrong and yet tries to dominate. Find a way to work it out, talk to your wife and discuss the scenario. If you can afford, arrange a separate housing for your mother and make sure she is well taken care of, visit and see her daily even if she moves out. If you can’t afford another housing for her, then your wife is the best source of help, talk to her. Any mother wouldn’t be around all time, one day she will be gone and we will miss our mothers no matter what. Take your mother out for nice dinner or lunch and try to explain her things if she can comprehend and if not do same with your wife. Try to find a middle ground which helps all. If you can just have them handle their stuff by themselves without getting involved is the best solution it might not work out for all.
Also remember, you can replace your wife but NEVER EVER a mother. Not saying wife has no rights but it’s all about priorities.
Okay!