Boss (around my age) is being weirdly competitive with me and leaving me off meetings. Chats about it not going anywhere and the situation is stressing me out. Taking tomorrow off to reset my perspective. What would you guys do in this situation?

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Your boss is feeling insecure. Give it a couple of months if it’s a newly promoted boss. If not, then try to reassure your boss you’re not trying to take his/her job...yet.

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He sounds very green in his role. He’s probably trying to establish himself in his role, as opposed to trying to penalize you… he might just need to feel like he can do it on his own.

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Common dude. Give him some tough competition then if thats what he wants. He'll trip sometime soon, and thats when you get leverage. And you be the boss then

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It may help to re-assess your “rules of engagement” for meetings with your boss and clients. For example, it may be helpful to funnel information through your boss rather than saying it yourself in front of clients. Seems inefficient, but an easy way to help ease some tensions with a new manager.

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Really appreciate your thoughts SM1! Ok, that makes sense!

Have a talk with him and just be upfront about why he's taking you off meetings

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Do you have a coach or PD manager? Speak to them and get advice. As this person is your direct line manager, you should also be upfront about how it is affecting you as PWC2 has suggested. You want to give the direct option a chance first...

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Do you have the option to work with different bosses on future projects? I would think so given the consulting nature. Talking to this boss or your sponsors maybe an option, but will require you to handle the situation carefully. Will recommend keep doing the good work and see if the trust builds up, and if not, try to switch to other project/boss.

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I probably do have that option yes. Good point. I just really like this practice area besides this!

Lol SC1 🤣 to be honest I’m almost there since he’s starting to piss me off. Can’t though. Wouldn’t want the negative karma and I almost want to help him instead— there are some mgmt type things he just sorely does not understand. Hoards work/ doesn’t respond to emails from team/ argues with bosses things like that

This is a joke btw. If I wanted his job I would have it. I don’t though, I just want him to let me do mine

PwC no part of me wants his job so I’m not competing with him whatsoever. I know I could have his job because I just left a very similar entry level management position in Industry to come to consulting a year ago (lots of reasons why I did this- the main one being accumulating technical skills as an IC on an expedited timeline to pivot to the job I would ideally like to have back in industry in 5-10 years)

I’ve tried talking to him professionally (“I’m noting a shift in our dynamic, what do I need to be doing differently?” Etc) but he will just say you’re fine or not anything useful at all. Hesitant to talk to my mentor/coach in case that would be throwing him under the bus somehow. I know he’s new.

He has a somewhat stubborn personality and does not seem to want to talk through conflict/communicate much at all so I’m at the acceptance and I need to figure out ways to cope stage. In no way do I want to push and mess up this relationship. Just trying to get additional perspectives on how to improve it

Getting less meetings in the calendar? That’s the dream

D1 you’re not wrong 😅

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