Do you ladies have groups at work for minority groups? Like Black Technologists or Women in Tech? If so, how do you feel about people that do not identify with those groups joining? As an ally or just an attendee. I’m conflicted — I’ll take an ally when I can but it seems there is never a space at work where I can just ‘be’.

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Most of the time those groups make sure there's events that are only for the people in that group. Even if they have to do so informally.

Also, all skin folk aren't kin folk so I'd say you need to curate those spaces intentionally. Even at work those groups will be small because of what folks have to do to get by.

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love this saying.

agree with D1, there should be separate events for the erg's people.

personally, I don't love allies at work. it feels odd to me that someone's only social interaction with black people is in an erg as an 'ally' (the case for my company's black erg).

I think it depends why the ally is there. The previous company I was at had a very "-ism" culture that was normal (ageism, sexism, racism). It was so normal that a trip to HR would end in them stating, "you're just not used to the culture yet!" So, others would show up to ERG meeting to ensure nothing progressive / anything that will disrupt current culture would happen. Any form of celebration of minority culture would have to include an equal effort celebration of european culture. My work friends and I left the DEI groups, the group lost their funding, and then the entire location lost XX million dollars for not complying with company mission. We all quit not too long after that for fresh start. And the fresh start has been fresh. Here, I can't tell if allies exist to learn about culture, experiences, or the benefits (like time away from work and outings). Here, I've also never seen anything outside regular work hours either.

** pro tip: don't look to just "be" at work. Be yourself with a professional polish while at work because as soon as you let your guard down is when people attack.. even folks that look like you. Join orgs outside of work to just be - Blacks in Tech, Women in STEM, social clubs, etc.

If you want an exclusive social or professional club, you should probably join one outside of work.

How does the company and culture grow if ERGs are restricted to specific demographics?

Trust me, I get it. It's difficult and uncomfortable having certain conversations in mixed company. But restricting membership doesn't seem productive or inclusive.

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