Do you notice early on when someone you’re dating isn’t being authentic to them and is just mirroring your interests just to be closer to you or is that just me?

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I've experienced this recently. It's a classic manipulation tactic to get into your pants. I was seeing a guy who mimicked my behavior, did all the right things and even reciprocated the same feelings that I had. But as soon as I told him that I wasn't going to be intimate without monogamy - he became Casper the ghost. I'm not going to lie - it hurt me a lot and I questioned my own judgement of the situation. But at the end of the day - I believe I dodged a bullet. Hope this helps!

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My advice for OP is set boundaries and see how they respond. People who are using you for alternative motives don't like boundaries and dip out as soon as you set them.

They send their representative

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