Does anyone feel like life is much more limited married/kids/job. Just seems like an endless roller coaster and repetitive. Sometimes miss having the absolute freedom I once had. I don’t think women..

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We do have exactly the same thoughts 💁‍♀️- lurking mom

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Your poor wife and kid(s). Step up man, you made all of these choices right? Enjoy the lifelong companions and figure out how to find some joy in your new life. A repetitive rollercoaster sounds like a day at Six Flags if you’re optimistic.

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i know some guys through work around their 40s and unable to conceive so far. You can just feel the desperation and helplessness. Unable to experience the greatest joy

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So I guess the consulting dads bowl is really just a bunch of lurking moms, huh

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I sometimes feel the same. Life events are determined by colleagues and kids social schedules. I don’t do my things anymore

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Weh weh. Me me me

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You need to make time for yourself, your wife needs to do the same.

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Yep, I feel you OP, but no point in complaining. You will definetly have less time for yourself so learn to plan accordingly and value every minute. I take a weekend off every 4 months or so with friends and so does my wife. We also take weekends/nights to ourselves. Don’t feel guilty for being a little selfish if it helps you keep it together in the longer term and avoid ending up having an affair or something like that.

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I am a lurking dad in the Moms chat

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Understand this feeling. Maybe some do.

Read Holly Butcher’s letter today.
We need to all complain less.
I’m particularly guilty

Another lurking mom. Also have the same thoughts. Just not seen as acceptable for me to say it out loud

I’ve certainly had thoughts like these. Sounds normal within reason. Share them with your wife. Frame as venting. My wife and I sometimes talk about what we would do in our imaginary single/kidless lives. It’s cathartic

@SA1 makes a great point.

Oh yeah I feel ya. I just want a little strange.

We all feel it. I think a lot of guys do consulting coz they can’t handle consulting work with kids and wife at the same time. I did s local project which was 35 miles away. The driving, going to client location even on Friday’s and having a toddler at home with sleepless nights made me do anxious. But when I travel my wife absorbs the load - with her job, kids classes etc. we have full time help bug still very challenging

D2 - Ah yes that makes sense

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