First time parent here. Our nanny just started and did a few things we were surprised by: took 30 min to make and eat breakfast after she arrived (on the clock), took a bunch of phone calls+

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I’ll cut to chase: You need a new nanny.

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Eating out of our fridge can be normal but you should set that expectation - I usually let them. Taking calls on occasion is ok, but not cool if it happens all the time. Eating first thing is not cool either especially if the child is awake. You need to set boundaries and expectations. Some nannies are awesome and just do what you are thinking; while other require a lot of specificity on what is expected

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Did you not set expectations around all this during your interview/s with her?

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Good plan. We have been lucky with superb nannies but at the end of the day, you have to go with what makes you comfortable

Cut nannies altogether and have someone that you trust (wife, grand parents) raise your kid(s) - I know that that's not a popular thing to say but it's the truth.

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You should quit your job and raise your kids yourself. This is not to the OP, just to the person who doesn't understand life. I know that's not a popular thing to say but it's the truth.

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From her friends and family (even while holding our son), said she would just grab lunch out of our fridge. Are these normal things for a nanny? This is our first so we aren’t sure if we are being too picky

Agree - need new nanny

Sack her. Find a new one

Did she do all this when you were at the house or did you observe on the camera? We found that if you don’t trust your nanny you will spend hours a day obsessing over the camera.

You did the right thing by setting expectations. See how it goes for a couple weeks, but it feels like you will probably need to switch. We went through 2 before we got to our current nanny and she has been with us for over 6 years. She’s like a part of the family and she is friends with all of the neighbors nannys. It’s a very good situation. The only sad part is that our kids are all in school now and we don’t really need her, but she basically runs our house. If we lose her we will be lost

M2. What do you mean? It’s not possible to trust a nanny?

Our nanny is great and doesn't do any of these things. But then again our employment contract is very clear on these matters...

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