For the introverted leaders, how do you create space to think and process with execs when they are hyper verbal?

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I would request them to email the key concerns ahead of time so you could come prepared.

Writing is a great way for folks to get their emotions and incoherence under control.

Your agenda during the meeting should focus on their email with a structured framework on how you plan to address them.

Additionally, I would practice listening for the underlying issue while cutting through the loud noises and emotional outbursts. Keeping your calm is the key. :)

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I let them know that I need to process information and can follow up shortly when I have to make a big decision. A lot of times the quietest voice in the room is the loudest, so try to speak up when you can.

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part of the solution if they don't do sport - you can invent steps competition or any other sport consistent activities and ask them to ve a role model so they can express their energy through body instead of talkings

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btw it was real case in my practice)
but we tried to adjust the toxic traits of a top manager through this

(did not work though))

we had a problematic HRD who could not stop venting his emotions on meetings.
it was extremely unproductive for everyone.

so his team simply suffered and did nothing.

but for my meetings i insisted on the agenda, of course he did not like it.

what we did:
1. soft escalation to his boss so they can carefully mentor him
2. reminder that we provide psychologist for free for all employees (intention was that he talks outside of meetings so he could deal with his a) necessity to talk b) emotions

ideally would be good to hire a coach for him as it seems he did not start sessions with psychologist but we did not have a budget

3. we started excluding him from meetings where it was possible and invite his "-1" who was able do stuff instead of bla bla

4. i scheduled special meetings 121 with him where he just talked and i practiced active listening other wise he was not functioning

5. at the end this HRD left the company for the better

6. we asked him to give more speeches to big audience eg teach them on new mindset etc, so he could satisfy his necessity to be a solo speaker (and he was good on these sessions)

this problem is real, i understand you quite well

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