For the ladies: If you’re going on dates with a 33 y/o man with a good job, and if the date goes well and you go back to his place, would you “judge” if he has a roommate?

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Only in nyc I would say no. I would judge the condition of the apt though. Is it a bro frat house or is it clean? Does he have a bedframe? Hand towels? Couch? 4 pillows? Roommate is fine but living like a teen isn’t

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I use to not have any pillows. Now I have one. Because the other one was taken by my sister who has 4 pillows.

Agree with Wyman over here. I once booked a hotel room with my aunt. We had separate queen size beds. The entire time, she kept trying to find space to put the extra pillows. She said "why do I need all these pillows for?" She hid two of the pillows in a drawer 😂

Roommate is irrelevant. Vibe of home situation is the only important thing. For instance, a guy with two roommates in a modest but nicely decorated 4th floor walk up is way preferable to a guy who lives alone in a baller 35th floor penthouse with nothing but condiments in their fridge, no bed frame or box spring in the bedroom, and zero decorations except for a handmade collage of people’s faces with their eyes cut out.

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Meh, I’d take the penthouse. I’d decorate it for him.

Jokes aside, OP you’re good. Looking at your comments and situation. Zero issue IMO.

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No judgment on having a roommate, but I still want to feel comfortable in the apartment. If it looks like a college apartment or the space is really tiny and the roommate can hear everything, it’s a no. If it’s a 2BR/2BA and you’re just sharing a kitchen and living room, who cares

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Thanks ladies, all great data points.

It would be a nice 2br2ba, 6k/mo place. Definitely not a college vibe at all. The reason for that is that I would be a new US resident with little credit so having a roommate makes renting easier. Also, as a new NYer, it’s much better to have company in the form of a roommate until I make more friends.

This roommate is also a female friend from back in the day.

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If your female friend is attractive, other women may be threatened/uncomfortable with you two living together

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No, some people just don’t like living alone and that’s normal.

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I think the roommate being a woman would give me pause.

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Not judge but question I guess. How good is this job? And how long has he had roomates

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Is it a good job if he has a roommate lol

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Note: I was just being zesty, I’ll def have a roommate into my earliest 30’s. Advertising just isn’t that high of a earning potential tbh

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Um by date three I know what neighborhood he lives in and whether he has a roommate or not. !!!!!!!

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Hell yeah

I would instantly nope out of there

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Yes! You should be able to afford your own place at that age. Otherwise, you shouldn’t be dating

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Not in NYC- means he’s financially prudent

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Should he judge if you have roommates too?

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Lol no

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I would judge but it wouldn’t necessarily be a deal breaker.

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Why u judging

Define “good job”

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