Is there such a thing as over texting the person you like?

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It depends on the status and understanding of your relationship

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Okay. I do think it’s time I back off a bit and thought of even saying that but I’ll see if they even notice

Match their pace or be slightly above it

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If you come off as over eager it may push someone away. Have to keep in mind the push/ pull dynamics. Think of you were standing face to face, if you keep a lot of content flowing toward that person, they are going to step back naturally. If you give them a little bit, then take a step back yourself, they will step towards you. Try it at a bar next time, talk to someone facing directly at them. Then speak to them turned sideways as if you might walk away at any point. They will be pulled towards you. Same with texting.

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There is, but I feel like overtexting would be if they kept texting “hellooo” “are you there?” “Hey ____”nonstop while I’m busy driving or something. So context matters more than quantity

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Yes. Respond when you have time, and if you see something interesting when out and about that you want to share with them, do that. Don't play games where they took 20 minutes to respond, so you have to take 25 minutes, etc. Match their energy, but don't overthink things.

If they are texting you often, then you can respond often and initiate, and vice versa. You can also look at doing phone calls instead of texting all day. And especially if you recently started seeing someone, you should be spending more time on dates instead of just texting a bunch between dates.

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If the feelings are mutual, then no.

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Yes. I’m guilty of this when I like someone

Im so worried of this that I think I end up coming off as uninterested

I have anxiety as well so I’m trying to calm tf down

Yes. Duh?

I will say that I used to text a lottttt more. Must be an age thing haha. Don’t over think it. If you have something to share fire that text off! Just don’t text just to text TOO much. Sounds crazy this day and age, but maybe don’t text and call him on your commute or something. Really talk is far more intimate anyway!

Yes, but as long as you don’t double text and don’t always respond immediately then it’s easy to avoid overdoing it.

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