Is there such a thing as over texting the person you like?

I find that being a police officer tends to limit my dating pool. I love being a cop don't get me wrong, but I need a little advice on how to navigate the dating world with being an officer. The moment I am transparent about my career, I get ghosted. Then those who do stick around tend to fall in love with my uniform and not me.

On a scale of 1 - 10, what would you rate me as a potential dating prospect?

Age: 40
Gender: male
Occupation: lawyer
Height: 5'11
Weight: 185 lbs
Physique: muscular (benchpress in high 200s)
Salary: 450K
Real Estate: 2M
Smoking: never
Drinking: on occasion
Drugs: none
Other interests: traveling, cooking, smooth jazz, alternative rock, krav maga, and long walks through downtown

I matched with a guy and we initially agreed to meet for the first time this coming Friday. Last Wed, he sent two messages on the app with suggestions but I wasn’t able to text back until Sat because I was traveling. He unmatched me. Am I in the wrong here? How often do you text people in the talking stage? (F in early 30s here)

When a senior banker(male) has asked you (female) to go to lunch multiple times with him. What to do? Is it unprofessional to keep saying no? It seems like more than just a friendly lunch.

Any romantic date ideas in Manhattan for an anniversary? Would also love ideas for nice restaurants with outdoor seating. Thanks!

Do guys like when you act disinterested? I swear the only time a guy is into me is when I don’t reciprocate any interest and am aloof. Whenever I like a guy and try and be friendly and show interest (and I don’t think I go overboard. I just like try and have a quick texting convo a day) they act like im a stalker and stop talking to me

I'm on a beach in Florida and a guy walks up to me and is like "you're from Texas, huh?" And I'm like "yeah, how'd you know"? And then I realize how he knew...

If you’re in a relationship (even a happy one), is flirting fine or walking a line? I think consistently flirting with the same person can be shaky, but what about strangers if you’re out?

Every single project I'm part of is filled with 30-something engaged or married guys who are straight. I give up

I was at a friend’s. Her and her neighbors are all moms and get together for dinner while the kids play. A father showed up to drop off kid while the mom was busy elsewhere, instead of going about his plans he stayed with us. I felt so much sexual tension with him there its so weird. I was attracted to something about him and i know i had his attention. I could barely look him in the eyes when he would make conversation. I wanted to… you know what. SO WEIRD. Hes not even a 10! Im so confused.

My confession is that as a young guy, I want us to go back to the office so I can meet driven, career minded, attractive women. So tired of being catfished and all the other BS on dating apps.

Edit: to clarify, I don't mean hitting on women at work. I would just like to meet quality women, and I don't go partying or to bars. It's very hard as someone in their 20s coming out of a pandemic to meet people.

Any F in nyc wanna hang out this weekend? 30 M here.

Which country is good for dating as in where can I get good girls to date outside India? If given an opportunity, which country you would like to move to?

Recently divorced after 10+ yrs (40M, Denver)... Starting to figure out dating again. What age difference is it too cringe to try to date?... 10 yrs younger ok? If you're low 30'sF us a 40M in play?

Gorgeous night, 36/m, anyone want to meet for a drink?

Are there any black single men preferably childless between the ages of 36-45 in this group? Would be amazing if you lived in NJ

29 M - Any one in Montreal for a relationship?

Plans fell through for this weekend. Any female fish want to hang out and grab dinner and drinks

Any Punjabi guys here? 26F, west coast

I am currently working in advertising with experience on fintech & CPG. I would like to work in tech marketing, specifically Google’s APMM program.
I’ve been studying some PM/PMM books/podcasts/videos, attending Google events, and want to keep learning more to try to prepare myself as much as I can.
What resources helped you get into product marketing/Google?
Has anyone here moved from advertising to tech?
Would love to hear from a marketer about their experience getting into Google.
Thank you

Happy Friday! To spread joy, who do you want to give flowers to today?

My firm has implemented a casual dress code through the end of the year and I’m hardcore judging everyone who is still dressing up when they come in. Who would voluntarily wear a suit or dress?

Looking for a 1BR in Chelsea/Flatiron/West Village/Union Square. Any recs on buildings? Ideally <$4500

How many days will Mphasis takes to release offer. On Thursday HR asked to submit documents and mentioned offer will be released by evening, But today is Monday and no info on offer (Welcome message I got on same day.)

Help- my FBIL is refusing to rent a tux for our wedding because he already owns one. It is a different tuxedo. We would like everyone in the same tux, which I don’t think is crazy to ask for? It’s not a financial issue and it’s not some sort of weird style. 11 other men will be in the rental, it will be obviously different. We’re paying a lot for formal pictures and while this isn’t a tragedy by any means, it is upsetting to my fiancé and I, especially as we ALWAYS go with everyone else’s flow.

been in Financial services 4.5 years. It has been a struggle and hasn’t gotten easier Just got a job offer from the city. Feeling torn don’t know what to do. Wife wants me to take job and quit.

Is there a professional/respectful way to decline a take home case study that doesn't automatically disqualify you from the candidate pool?

Hi everyone
I am currently serving notice period. I would appreciate if u all can help me understand skills & courses to develop during this career break (due to family priorities) apart from pharmaceutical brand management as i am willing to pivot my role into
1. Consulting in life sciences or healthcare or pharma domain 2. Competitive intelligence in above mentioned sectors 3.business analytics in above mentioned sectors.I wud appreciate if u can share a few referrals.Wud be resuming by Jan

I am a Angular Frontend developer with HTML, CSS, js, ts as my secondary languages. I also have some idea of Azure app services (and recently passed my AZ900 Exam last month).

Yoe: 4

I wish to upgrade my techstack but not sure what will help me to grow FINANCIALLY and have sustainable career in IT.
Can you guide me on what can I learn for the same.
1. React and react Native
2. Azure and complete any certification such as AZ 204
3. MEAN stack.

Why doesn't the public consider Biologists to be part of STEM? It's just as important of a science.

Would be really interested to see the pay scales for all grades in Business Consulting if anyone has sight of them? I am an SC on £47K, would like to see how that scales against other SC’s / Managers. Thanks :)

Best strategy for the Gulag? I need help here.

What system does everyone play on and what is your K/D?

Anyone on bench in AMM AMI.

Hey guys, need some advice. I was fortunate enough to get the Consortium fellowship at Ross but am also stuck on the CBS waitlist and am still planning to apply to Wharton in R3. Assuming I get into CBS/Wharton, is there that much of a difference between them to forgo scholarship money? For context, I want to get into product management at FAANG/fintech with pursuing MBB as a plan B. Thanks in advance!

I feel like the stereotype about being an introvert and an accountant don't apply to black ppl. Everyone I met that's an accountant is LOUD, okay lol

What do you folks think about a monthly show and tell of anything data-related?
Open forum where anything relating to data & its applications would be fair game. E.g.:

-a visualization you made and/or like
-data pipelines for a personal website
-market analysis
-relevant memes
-scientific article
-data news
-what you'd like to see data driven but isn't

In a nutshell, a conversational experience. Introduce and discuss ideas. BYOB and at least 1 talking point, or if you really want a full deck

Hello fam. T&E is back online.

How do you say no to your manager if you have been asked to work in a shift and the work that you have to do has no relevance to your actual job.

F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Is it a red flag if they’re an associate?

Been dating for a little over a year, but she hasn’t introduced me to her family yet. I don’t have any plans for thanksgiving this year, and she didn’t invite me to spend the holiday with her family (local). Is it still too early or is it a red flag?

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

When did you know you were falling out of love with your partner? Did you fix it, or break things off and why?

In search of stories to hopefully understand a phase in my own long term relationship.

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Need some advice. Ive been with my GF for 3.5 months now. I’ve caught my GF in multiple lies regarding her sexual/relationship history. When caught, her first reaction is anger at me for asking about her past too much, etc. but eventually she becomes quite sorry and apologetic. She says I shouldn’t care about her past, but I feel that it is important, and I communicate my questions as soon as they come up. I really like her, and I know I could be less curious, but the lying hurts. Thoughts?

Men- if you text a girl you “like” but have never asked out on a date that you missed her and she responds “you could ask me out on a date”. How would you respond?

How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

I deeply miss my ex. The breakup was initiated by me 5 years ago because I was scared to commit. Since then, I’ve gotten married and have a daughter. I’m so embarrassed to admit it but I think about my ex everyday. I am so sad that I walked away from him. Life is ok now - I’m thankful for my family but my heart hurts. How do I move on?

I was on a tour but where I asked a couple of older women sitting behind me to speak softly as it was 6:30 am in the morning. After that they kept saying loudly that i’m smelling and that i need to use deo and that i should keep my arm down. I confronted them later and they said respect your elders?? I want to ruin their vacation. What else can I do?

Has anyone been through a situation that you were in a terrible relationship ( stress,anger, fights, swears, physical abuse, ego clashes) and how did you resolve it? Some might have worked on and stayed in the relationship and some might have broken up. I am looking for answers from both sides. How did you stay/work on it and how did you break up and move on? Me and my partner have strong feelings for eachother and are almost inseparable despite going through so much.

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?