Going back to work after paternity leave is rough. Any tips for 1) getting back into the groove and 2) not pissing off your wife because you’re too tired to do anything

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It’s natural for it to be a challenge to get back into the groove and people will understand, just ask for help where needed and set boundaries. Your second question - the easiest way to not piss her off is to not be too tired to do anything. That means setting boundaries to get off work at a reasonable time, and then taking on at least part of the evening feedings, playtime, baths, tummy time. If your baby is still getting up in the night to eat - You might also cover the feedings until like 10 or 11p so she can go to bed early at like 7p and get / big chunk of uninterrupted sleep (then you go to sleep after that last feeding and sleep until you get up in the morning). In the morning, get up earlier so you can help out with washing bottles or throwing in the first load of wash - stuff that is helping get setup for the day.

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