Guys, I'm feeling burnt out WFH w my 1.5 yr old. I love him & that I get to WFH with him but most days I just spend stressing & waiting for hubs to get home to make any real work progress. Fam &friends have been soo helpful during this season but I'm kind of contemplating leaving the workforce or getting pregnant so I can have paid leave before officially leaving. I find my value in working & dont rly know how id fair w/o a career to talk about eventho motherhoods always been my ultimate goal.

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Wfh is almost impossible with a baby at home. Baby needs to go to daycare or have some other arrangement. Very hard to be fully productive at home while baby is there. Utilize the flexibility of wfh to drop off/pick up baby at convenient time or have late/early start to your day but this cannot substitute day care.

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I’m a young mother too. My baby is under a year old. I had to make the tough choice and choose between work and taking care of baby. I met midway with myself. I left Deloitte because I couldn’t do the long exhaustive hours and also take care of baby. I’ve taken up an easier 40ish hour job. Baby still goes to day care but I’m there more. Personal experience- wfh and work is not doable

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Would you pay someone else to watch your kid while they had a FT job at Deloitte? Unlikely, because you know your kid wouldn’t be getting the priority attention they deserve. That’s what you’re doing right now.

Get a nanny (or nanny share if more financially viable), for at least part time or you’re going to burn out so fast. Both your career performance and your kid are currently taking the hit.

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Yes 100% it will get harder and what about when you add a sibling like you’re considering? At 1.5yo I’m guessing your kiddo is just starting to piece together some phrases. By 2yo they will be chatting up a storm anytime you try to take a phone call and getting into things like drawers and making messes while you’re distracted. Forget about it once they’re a 3yo “threenager” with huge emotions and meltdowns. Hopefully by then you’d have at least half day preschool but that’s a challenge too.. dropoff at 8 or 9am and pickup at lunch.

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Hubby and I, both WFH and we still hired an at home nanny. Best thing ever. She comes in at 7am and ends at 2pm. We are able to check on baby when we have open time blocks and baby gets to have 1:1 attention from another grown up.

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Thanks all who provided their input and guidance. Seriously really appreciate your perspectives shared about what works for your families and what to expect as they get older. I've decided to more formally hire someone from my church fam to come a few times per week (very discounted rate, thank God) and keep toughing it out until I start homeschooling in a few years. That way I still get to be with bb and know well taken care of while I navigate work.

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