Heartbroken by the first breakup I’m going through. She’s been struggling with mental health issues and just started seeing a therapist. Up to the end she described us as “the happiest and healthiest relationship of her life” and we both said I love you even after the breakup.
Obviously it’s a circumstantial, but what’re the odds that a therapist helps her and she comes back to the relationship she admitted was so great? I realize this kind of thinking is toxic and I should start to move on.

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You have to give up on that kind of thinking. A therapist will never encourage someone to re-enter a relationship. Therapy is going to focus on her and whatever her issues are. Just because you love someone and they love you doesn’t mean the relationship will succeed. It needs both people to have capacity for it in addition to being in love. Sometimes when people go through therapy and succeed, they don’t want to restart old relationships whether because they are ashamed of how they treated the other person or they are reminded of who they were before they worked on themselves. The memories you have together are probably pretty painful for you both and that can make people avoid it. On top of that, therapy can take a long, long time. Years even. Who is to say that you will still be single and wanting a relationship? Your job now is to rebuild a life for you and around you, whether you ever come into contact with her again or not. If one day she figures herself out in therapy, she won’t come back to you because you waited. You would both need to approach the relationship as 2 new people with a shared history who don’t really know each other

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I don’t claim to know the intricacies of your relationship, but there’s contradiction there. If its that great she would stay. Only unless she is deeply self aware and realizes that she is bringing you down with her , would she truly want out. She will stay and hang on if she wants to be there

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