Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

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Let him, it’s his relative.

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Probably not unless you guys were friends prior to the relationship

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Yeah it’s his job

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Let him do it on his own terms. He might not have told them about the breakup yet

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If you have a relationship with them, let them know you will not be attending. Nothing more annoying than paying an extra $3-5k because people decide not to show up day of

Correct. Had 15 people not show up out of 125. After taxes was around $220 a plate

I hate to sound callous, but just cut communication and let him deal with these things on his own. Getting involved and questioning whether or not you should is a no-no, bc it makes things hairy.

If you have a separate relationship then I’d let them know you are not coming. It is a polite think to do from your end. You don’t need to reply to any follow up texts. We don’t know what sort of relationship you have with them. Your conversations with then should indicate how you want to handle it; it they were pretty basic and they know only as a +1 and nothing more about you, then drop it and go your merry way.

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